Notes 2 Inspire: Building an Image vs Making an Impact

It seems like everyone is becoming some sort of ‘influencer.’ As I scroll through Instagram and see the more curated photos and perfectly chosen inspirational quotes. And, while I love a good boost of inspo and clearly I hope you do too this is a “note 2 inspire after all. I think it’s easy to get swept up by the branding and appearances of it all instead of the impact you desire to make.

I don’t think any ‘influencer’ got into it thinking about the perfect image they could create I believe that each one of us does what we do or what we want to do because we hope to help someone else. But, it’s easy to get more obsessed with the branding, with the image and the appearance and forget about what we wanted to do in the first place-make an impact!

And, the funny thing about this switching your focus to image, branding and appearances is that is more stressful and creates more anxiety. We begin to worry about what people will think. Instead of how people will feel.

Nothing is perfect. In fact, curation and perfection are boring.

When you place your focus back on making that impact, affecting those who you care about, sharing your experience and feelings to help others feel better, stronger and more connected not only is life more fulfilling but you don’t care about the things that don’t matter.

This week, try to keep your focus on the impact you want to have and worry less about the image.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Create More than You Consume

Do you feel empowered after you scroll the interwebs? Or, do you feel overwhelmed, a bit bummed, or maybe even “behind?”

When we scroll through Instagram, Fb etc it is easy to compare our “work in progress” with someone else’s filtered and curated end product. I am not saying that what they post isn’t authentic or worthy. I too love a good filter and don’t post when my website crashes or when I totally miss a deadline. But, that’s actually my point. We all tend to post the best version of whatever is happening. But, it’s easy to forget that those pics and posts are the best versions of that person’s day, it may or may not be reality and it causes us to feel like we are behind in the race. That we aren’t “doing it.”

I try to create more than I consume. Not because I want to bombard people with beautiful pictures. That’s not it at all! But, what I mean is, that I try not to consume more of others ‘stuff’ than I can create of my own.

And, by creating I don’t mean post more on social!

I create blogs to help others, I create webinars, I journal, workout or film videos to help others. The more I create to help others with their questions or needs the better I feel. I don’t want you to create for the sake of being busy. I hope you can find ways to create that shares your gifts and helps others.

How do you feel after you scrolled through IG for 30 min? Do you feel like you can take on the world? If you do that’s awesome. But, if you feel whelmed or worse then make a deal with yourself this week to create more than you consume!

I can’t wait to see what you create this week.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Copy Less, Guess More!

Back when I was a student I hated failing. And, by failing I mean getting anything less than an ‘A’ on an assignment or test. I will never forget the moment I thought about cheating on a test. I remember seeing the answers on my neighbor’s test so clearly and so easily. It was like they were wanting me to see them! But, as my eyes started to zero in and my mind was trying to justify copying my neighbor’s answers someone sneezed. The teacher looked up and I lost my nerve to copy those answers.

I’d like to think I passed some life test but the truth is had that person not sneezed I wonder if I would have copied them. A week later I found out the answers I was about to copy were wrong. I got them correct. Sure I guessed but I still went with my gut on it. That’s when I realized that copying someone else was not going to be the answers I needed in school and this lesson translated into life.

We so often compare ourselves to others. We think the way they share their good news, the font they use, the filters the colors or the hashtags are the keys to whatever kingdom we seek to have. But, the truth is every time to copy someone else you settling to be what they are doing. You cannot be you, grow your life or your business if you are copying someone else. And, worse, you don’t even know if what they are doing is right for them let alone the best step for you!

So, look, I get it, it’s tempting. I mean, the answers are right there. Waiting for us to just copy and do what they are doing. But, if you copy the “competition” or the people who have gone ahead of you, forged a path you will only get as far as they did. And, I know you were meant for more!

This week, where can you break from tradition? What can you do that feels a little scary? What steps can you take that you don’t know the answer to?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Get Out of the Harbor!

I hate those things that “pop-up” out of nowhere and block me from where I want to go, what I want to do or feel like they are trying to take me down. Do you know what I am talking about? You’re going on your journey, making your goals and magic happen and BOOM! Out of nowhere, your website goes down, someone writes something cruel on your post or steals your credit card and now you have to deal with that. When all you want to be doing is getting your message out there and building your business. Rachel Hollis said on a recent podcast “Ships are safe at harbor but that’s not what they’re made for.” And neither are YOU!

So, you are finally getting the guts up to get out of “the harbor” and then something happens that makes you wish you had just stayed at home. Not put yourself out there. Not put money or time into a project because the outcome wasn’t what you anticipated.

Last week I arrived home from my three week trip of Vegas, Melbourne, and Cambodia. After months and years of blogging, writing, teaching and even going live I was nervous and worried. What if people didn’t like the workshops? Maybe I should have just stayed at home? But, the opposite was true. They loved all of it! And, I wouldn’t know that if I hadn’t gotten out of the “harbor.” It was an incredible adventure where I met many of you readers in real life! The trip was incredibly amazing and allowed me to share my workshops and Pilates teaching with so many people.

My point in sharing this is, you were meant to get out and share your gifts. And, getting outside the comforts of the neighborhood, your office, your studio, your computer is necessary! I cannot guarantee it will be smooth sailing. In fact, it’s almost better if it’s not. There is a lot of growth in things not going as planned.  I do wish for your absolute health and safety, but putting yourself out there, sharing your gifts is scary but not sharing your gifts is scarier.

Have you been holding yourself back? Worried about what will happen? Worried about what others will say? Worried about what others will do? You may be safe where you sit but was that what you were made for?

This week consider pushing your limits a little bit. If you make a mistake re-read last week’s Note 2 inspire. You cannot control the outcomes or actions of others but you can captain your own ship! And, isn’t that exciting? What will you see when you’re out of the harbor?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Say What You Want Out Loud

Do you keep your dreams a secret? Tell me if this sounds familiar… You have an idea for your life or your business but you don’t want to share it. You don’t want anyone to copy what you are doing. You keep it to yourself until you’re “ready.” How often does that work out for you? When was the last time something you wanted you kept secret and then it happened? If you have been successful this way that’s amazing. But, as I look back at all the things I have that I wanted the ones that have come to fruition came because of the help of others. Because I told somebody something I wanted.

For example, people ask me how I got my retreat space in Cambodia often. I tell them, I wanted it and I told everyone in Siem Reap what I wanted. I told them what I was planning on doing. And, even though when I was there and there were no possible retreat spaces to buy I just kept telling people I knew there what I was looking for. One day, a house that was not listed became available. Someone told someone and that person told someone who I had told what I wanted. And boom! I got it!

I only have my house there because I did not keep my plans a secret.

My retreat space was not from manifestation alone. It was from the help of others!

Here’s the thing. I could have been worried someone else would hear my idea and copy me. But, life is too short to worry about that. And the truth is 98% of people will never act on their dreams. Isn’t that insane!?

And, an even better thing, people want to help you! They want you to be happy! They want to be part of the story that is YOU.

So, this week, don’t keep to yourself what it is that you want! Tell someone what you’re working on. Who knows who they know who could have the keys to your dreams.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Get Out of Your Own Way!

Stand up! Yep, as you read this stand up. Ok, please stand up while you read this. I want you to feel something that happens in your mind on a regular basis with your own body. Yes, in your mind you do something probably without even noticing it. You limit yourself. So, stand up and try this with me.

Stretch your arms up to the sky and see how far you can stretch.

Hold it for a second!

Does it feel good to stand up and stretch as much as you can?

Ok, relax.

Now, stand up and do it again. But, this time I want you to stretch 2 inches taller than before.

Go!

Oh my, doesn’t that feel so good!

Now, go ahead and relax. Did you stretch taller the second time?

Why is it that the second time you stretched taller when I asked you to but the first time you didn’t get that far?

The first time I asked you to do as much as you can and somehow the second time because I suggested it you could get taller. The first time you could have done it but you stopped yourself. Your brain said this is as far as I can go. But it wasn’t.

In life, we hit roadblocks, obstacles and limiting thoughts on a daily basis. It’s our own mind that is keeping us for doing more.

This week, notice where you are holding yourself back and tell yourself you can do two more inches.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: You are the Only You

Ever have imposter syndrome? I don’t think there is a day that goes by that I don’t have a moment of “I’m not good enough” kind of feelings. I know that I am not alone. I know this because I am friends with some of the most incredible humans on this planet and they all have said to me more than once that they don’t feel good enough or like it’s their turn. So, if you are reading this and you have felt imposter syndrome you are sooo not alone!

Recently, I was at a two-day workshop with Cathy Heller from Don’t Keep Your Day Job. And, we all had to write down our greatest imperfection. What we felt our greatest imperfection was. All of us wrote down a feeling of imposter syndrome. We all worried that we would fail. Well, all of us but two. One person said their imperfection was having too little of breasts and the other person felt their breast were too big. But, aside from those everyone felt some form of imposter syndrome!

So, guess what that means? We are all trying to be awesome and worried that we are not. But, you know what? You are the only YOU. And that is awesome!

You are the only one with your journey, your story, your experiences. You might have similar experiences as someone else but not the same. And so no matter what you want to do in this world you have to do it! Because you are the only one who can do it your way.

If you try to do things like someone else did then it’s gonna feel icky. If you do it the way you are uniquely called to do it you will thrive. I’m not saying you won’t feel like you need to give yourself a pep talk every day but you will be so aligned with who you are “success” whatever that means to you will feel so sweet!

This week please remind yourself as often as possible that you are the only you. It is so important that you realize that. And, if you don’t believe me look at your fingerprints. On Cathy’s podcast, I listened to her and author Jen Sincero talk about finger prints. Why would we have fingerprints except to prove to you that you are not a copy?

You are the only you. I am so grateful for you.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Always Be Generous

When you are standing in line at the coffee shop do you scroll on Instagram or do you see how you can help someone you haven’t talked to in months?

When you think of someone do you text them and see how they are doing?

When offer your products or services and are rejected do you see what they need or are looking for instead?

Checking in on people you haven’t spoken to in months or years can seem weird. But, if you pair standing in line with just sending a “hey, how is it going?” to the last person in your long, long list of text messages and just see how you can help them it’ll never seem weird. In fact, it will feel normal, it will become a habit and you will grow your network and deepen friendships.

I know, you’re busy! Me too! But, have you ever been in a position where you need something from someone from a past life and it feels strange and awkward to reach out? Yeah, me too! But, if you regularly do a little check in and see if they need anything it will never feel strange. And, you never know! Being rejected by someone doesn’t mean no to everything! They may be looking for someone who is a friend of yours and then you can generously hook them up with a e-troduction and then they may think about a friend that needs what you are offering!

Always be generous doesn’t mean do everything for other people. It means seeing how you can help others with what you already have in your strength or connections bucket so that one day when you need something it shows up on your doorstep!

Always be generous will actually allow you to spend more time thinking about what you rock and what others rock and how you can all rock together!

If you’re always being generous others will be too! Including strangers! Plus, how long does it really take to do an e-troduction?

Less time then it takes to read this blog post!

How generous can you be this week?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Are You Doing it For the Money?

They say to do what you love! You only live once! But, sometimes what you love doesn’t always pay the bills. But, does that mean you do something you don’t love because of the money? Does that mean you get a gig that pays the bills and then some and dabble in what you love?

I mean, what are you supposed to do if what you love doesn’t get you the money you need?

To be honest I don’t have the answer to that question. Mostly, because there are a multitude of answers depending on who you are, what you do and how much money you need/want to make.

But, what I can say is that if you are doing it solely for the money it’s not going to work out. You will not feel good selling it, talking about it or sharing it. For example, I see people trying to sell a product or course they don’t love or care for, they may have even created it but they did it for the payoff not because it fed their soul. And because of the drive behind it being the money they not only sound unauthentic it either doesn’t sell or they feel out of alignment afterward. I’m sure thats not exactly how they define it. They probably just feel like binging out on food, shopping or other libations.

They say that the further away you are from your calling the more anxiety and stress you are going to find yourself in. Why? Because you are trying to fit yourself into a hole that’s not the right size.

So, sure, you made a lot of money. But, you’re not doing what your gift is. So, then all those people who could be receiving your gift are also missing out. And, you don’t reap the benefits of giving your gift.

This week, as you decide what projects to say yes to, as you decide what tasks take precedence just ask yourself why you are doing it? If it’s for the money could you set it aside and spend 15 minutes thinking about ways doing more of what you love could be part of your life? Write down 10 ideas every day about how you could do more of what you love!

I know this sounds easier said than done. I know you may be sitting there with a mountain of bills. But, I also can say that I left a “secure” job with a salary and vacation time during the recession to be a full-time Pilates instructor. And, now, almost 10 years after leaving that job I not only pay my bills but I get paid doing what I love. The difference is I’m not doing it for the money. I do it because I love it, I feel energized after each and every day, even the long ones. I used to shop and go out more often because I “deserved it for all the work I had been doing.” But, once I started working on projects because I loved doing them and not for the security or the money they would provide my whole world shifted.

Was it easy?

Nope! And sometimes it’s still not. Tech happens, people don’t do what I expect or things don’t launch when I want. But, at the end of the day I’m doing what I was born to do. I am using my gifts. And those gifts give loads more to those I teach and coach. And, that in turn, gives back tenfold.

So, what ideas will you think up? What do you love doing? How can you do more of it?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: You Don’t Have to Wait in Line

Living in LA I often drive by filming studios, clubs, bars and music venues and there are lines of people waiting to get in. I’ve seen news stories on people who camp out for movie releases, the latest iPhone or tennis shoe. And, I’m not hating on any of that. If waiting in line to get something you desire works for you then go for it.

But, one of the things I have been noticing as a common theme for many “successful” people is that not one of them waited in line for someone to let them in the front door. Some of the most famous entrepreneurs, celebrities and speakers got where they are because the line was too long so they went around to the back door or window. Steven Speilberg apparently got someone to notice his movie by getting a three-day set pass and dressing like an exec, said hi to the security guards like he knew them and made those three days last a week or so. His tenacity caught someone’s eye and that person helped him get his first movie in front of the gatekeepers and he became the youngest director.  He didn’t wait in any line.

And why should you?

Who said that you have to wait your turn?

Tell me, do you have an idea for something and desire to do it but you don’t think you’re “ready” yet? That’s your fear telling you to wait in line.

Has someone said you have a golden idea and you have to make it happen and you have a million reasons why you can’t yet? Another line.

Have you launched something and it didn’t have the impact you wanted so you moved on? Another line.

Sometimes the line moves fast and you can get in the front door. But, if there’s a back door, window or helping hand go for it!

I promise you, you’re not cutting in front of anyone by finding another way in. I know this because there is no pie of success, money or abundance. If you find success, make money or enjoy abundance it doesn’t affect my ability or anyone else’s ability to have those things too.

So, this week, skip the line and see what happens!

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: If You Want Your Dreams to Come True

If you want your dreams to come true you have to wake up! You need to open your eyes. It’s so easy to think about what we want, to lament over not having what we want and to wish for what we want. It’s so not easy to put one foot in front of the other and make your dreams a reality.

Or is it?

Have you ever had a dream and then days, weeks or months later lived that dream? It’s the craziest thing when it happens. We often call it deja vu. But, I do think our dreams can be our own future tellers. I know that borderline on woo but it’s true. Let me tell you a story.

At the very beginning of this year, I lost my engagement ring. I cried so hard. I was inconsolable. I really couldn’t stop looking for it. One day two weeks after I lost it I was dreaming. In my dream, I kept seeing piles of rings from the designer of my ring. But none of the rings were mine. My husband was in my dream and he kept saying I could pick any ring I wanted. But, I kept looking for my ring. I left this market to join my husband and friends to go get Kippy’s ice cream. And just as we were about to leave I saw my ring in a pile. My alarm went off! I closed my eyes. I wanted to go back to this dream so badly. I wanted to see where my ring was. But, I couldn’t get back to the dream. I couldn’t see more than what I already saw. I had to get up. I had to open my eyes.

My housekeeper walked in and I said to her “Elvia, we are going to find this ring. It’s in a pile. I just saw it in a dream.” Sure enough, an hour later she found it, in a pile of toothbrushes.

I know that my ring story is nothing like the dreams we have for our lives or our businesses but I hope it shows that in your dreams is your future and you can have it if you believe and open your eyes.

What are you dreaming about? What do you want? This week, write down your dreams, see what they are telling you!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Do You Know Where Your Keys Are?

If you see me in real life you know that I am happy! And, I don’t mean that in a braggy way. I mean that in a possible way. Meaning, I believe that everyone deserves to be happy and that everyone has the opportunity to be happy.

And, hey, I get it, it’s easy for me, someone who is happy to say we should all be happy. But, it’s true. You just have to believe that not only is being happy possible. But, that it is possible for YOU!

So, if you believe that being happy is possible for you then it just takes you finding the keys to your happiness!

Guess, what!? Finding the keys to your own happiness is really easy. Are you ready for it?

Your key’s to your own happiness is in YOUR pocket!

Yep, it’s true.

You want to know how I know?

Well, for years I searched for my happiness in my past jobs, past friendships or romantic relationships. I searched high and low and thought they were in purses I didn’t own yet or the trending outfits that I hadn’t bought yet. But you know what?

One day I found my keys to my own happiness and they were in my pocket the whole time.

So, go grab your keys and open the door to your happiness.

Are you ready?

xx~LL