Notes 2 Inspire: Your Mess is Your Message

I have heard “your mess is your message” for years! I have no idea who I heard it from first. But, a few years ago I heard it on a podcast, then I heard it through Lori Harder and Jen Gottlieb and again on a podcast. And while I nodded along as if they were preaching to the choir I really didn’t digest that phrase. It resonated and left. Kind of like a great brownie. A moment on the lips and then you drink some milk and the deliciousness is gone.

But, recently it stuck. I heard “your mess is your message” when in a coaching session with my mastermind and I blurted out my mess and immediately realized how it is SOOO my message!

So, my challenge to you this week is to brain dump your mess. How can you share what you are trying to clean up the most to help others?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Some Meetings are Just For a Moment

About 6ish years ago I was leaving my relationship, home, totaled my car and the studio I taught my clients was closing. A friend of mine wanted me to meet someone. And, honestly, I wasn’t feeling super excited to make a new friend. It wasn’t like I didn’t want to but you know when you’re going through stuff, it’s hard to make space or start something new.

Anyways, I met the friend of a friend and within a few more hangs she introduced me to a guy who I am now married to. And, the girl, who is amazing (I’m eternally grateful) and I are more like social media friends. Our relationship was more for a season (as far as we know…the future has yet to unfold).

My point is, sometimes you meet people for one tiny moment. A conversation that will teach you something you need to know, an intro to your future partner, or someone who can help you with your dream.

And, it’s ok to let those meetings be for a moment. Don’t make them longer than they are designed. Allow them to be what they are to be and that may even mean letting go of some people who have been in your life longer. Have you been keeping friendships longer than maybe they were meant to be kept?

This week, take inventory of those chance encounters that were stepping stones to where you want to be. It’s a pretty fun experiment. What’s one of the most random encounters you have that made a difference in your life?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Be So Imperfect it Drives People Crazy

You know how much I think perfectionism is just procrastination? If you don’t then let me introduce myself. Hello, I am LL and I used to be a perfectionist. And, then I realized I was just being a procrastinator. And, really, who wants to be a procrastinator?

Now, I know there is plenty of chatter about how some procrastination is a good thing. It allows ideas to percolate. And, I would agree with that. But, I am not talking about the percolating kind of procrastination. I am talking about the delay, make excuses, dream of it but never pull the trigger, kind of procrastination. The deep belief that it needs to be perfect before you can share it with anyone.

Let me just tell you that you will always be tweaking things.

ALWAYS

There are more guarantees in life than death and taxes.

Updating your website will be a constant task.

So, launch it! You can make changes as you get feedback and learn how your users are using it.

Share that blog. You can always write and update or edit it later.

Give that speech!

Paint that picture.

Post that video.

You don’t get good by thinking about it.

You get better and better by doing.

The author of “the happiness project” said in an interview she’d rather have that get together then plan the perfect dinner party that never happens.

So, press “go”, “publish” or “play!”

Because the more you share who you are and care less about being so perfect the more you’ll drive people crazy for you!

Being you is more attractive than being curated.

What will do imperfectly today?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Boldly Brag Like You Never Have

On the first in-person day of my this new mastermind I joined to help me grow my businesses, even more, they asked us to take 60 seconds to brag big! I instantly felt a pang of fear. What would I say? I mean, what I have I done with bragging about? Not going to lie I felt a bit speechless and then I realized how dumb that all sounded. I mean, have you ever actually listened to some of the thoughts in your head? We all have stuff to brag about. So, why don’t we?

For the next hour I listened to 40 people share their big brags. I was number 30 so to say I sat there ready to share the whole time would be a lie. I had to keep reminding myself of all the crazy amazing big and small things I had accomplished. I took out my journal and began writing them down. I kept writing until it was my turn.

And for 60 seconds I share all the things I thought were worth bragging about.

I felt pretty awesome. I mean, I also felt like in comparison my brags were as big as others but for me they were big time brags.

Afterwards when we were all mingling people were coming up to me to talk about how cool some of my brags were! WHAT?!?!

So, it got me thinking, why don’t we take a moment to brag? Brag without qualifying. Brag without making our achievements from “luck.” Or, making my win small so others won’t feel bad.

This week, brag boldy! Brag BIG. If you don’t want to do it in person out loud as I did then comment below with your brags. Brag like no one is watching.

xx~LL 

 

Notes 2 Inspire: Go Ahead, Disappoint People

I made a lot of decisions growing up because I wanted to make sure my family was proud of me. Sound familiar? People from my hometown understand graduating with high honors and getting promoted, working up the corporate ladder.

One day with a year left of college I went home to see my sister graduate. I ran into a girl I knew from growing up and when she saw me she told me all about her life. She was so excited about it. When I told her what I had been working on “graduating next year, running my own stores and living by the beach” she said, “that it?”

That’s IT!

Inside I wanted to scream at her. Did she even know how hard I was working? How many hours I was working each week? How I was carrying 17 units and running a store while managing a staff of 15?

No, she didn’t. And, even if she did it wouldn’t have impressed her.

That’s when I realized no matter what you do you will disappoint people!

So you may as well get started!

This week, how many things can you do to disappoint anyone but you?

Try it out!

It’s kind of refreshing.

Make decisions based on how you will feel about yourself at the end of the day and not who you’ll disappoint. And, by the way, you’re going to disappoint people who truly see and care about you. It’s just not possible.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Break the Pattern

Did you know that 95% of your decisions each day are unconscious? That’s insane, isn’t it?

Only 5% of the decision you make each day are conscious decisions.

Which means, 95% of the things you do, you’re doing because of a pattern you created. And you could have created that last year, five years ago or even when you were a little kid!

So, if you’re wanting a change, you want something new you have to make new decisions. Conscious decisions. You have to break the pattern.

And, here is the thing, when you break the pattern it won’t feel good. It will feel like you lost a part of you. Especially the longer you’ve had it around.

You may not be doing your dream because the pattern you use to make decisions with believes you are not good enough or you are too much.

What’s something you can do differently this week? Something crazy? Out of the ordinary?

Before you can talk yourself out it, use an old pattern, break it. Give it a while.

It won’t be easy. But, wouldn’t be cool to see what life is like when more of your decisions each day are conscious?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: New Level, New Devil

Do you ever find yourself saying “once I get to ___ it’ll be better”? And, as you get closer and closer to your next level- website launch, new show, bigger space, and goal achieved it almost feels harder. And, then when you finally get a chance to break through. There is more work.

Sure, it’s exciting, I mean, you made it!

And, I want you to CELEBRATE

You did it. You are at the next level in your life, goal or business.

But, I wish someone had told me this theory years ago. Because I would have enjoyed being exactly where I was more.

See, I know you’re working hard. You want to more. You’re trying to move up. To get to the next level. And, if it’s because you’re ready, it’s time and it’s your next step, LEVEL UP MY FRIEND!

But, if you’re leveling up to escape where you are, to get out of the hardships of being where you are then please remember. New Level New Devil.

So, my friend, you got to be ready to level up.

This week, can you see where you are ready to level up and where you are forcing it because you just don’t like how hard your now is.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: What If You Didn’t Care About the Hoopla

Do you ever start to do something and then freeze, worry, stress or totally freak out because you’re so worried about the outcome you can’t think about the next step? When’s the last time you had an idea but the stress that it wouldn’t work out, or the feelings of what people might think stopped you from seeing it through? I have moments where I go to do something and my “what would people think” worries start speaking. And, they don’t like to whisper.

But, then one day I just didn’t care. I was too tired to care about the hoopla. Then outcome. I just had to do the thing! And, you know what? There were zero fireworks. No one threw me a party and awarded me for my efforts. The idea came, I made it happen and it did its thing. And you want to know something?

It was freaking glorious!

Yep, the freedom to not give an F about what happened after I completed the idea was so invigorating I did it again. And again. And, now, there is nothing stopping me from just trying out the ideas that come my way. Some of them fall flat and I get awesome feedback from that. And others, well, they exceed my expectations. Like my AGENCY Mastermind. I didn’t put any hoopla expectations on this idea. I just had to birth it. And, it blows my mind every day.

This week, what if you didn’t care about the hoopla? What would you do?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Let Others Impress You

Ever been to a party? ha, lame question. Ever been around people you don’t know very well? The answer is probably yes. Can you recall one of the recent party’s you went to? Chances are you knew someone there but you probably also didn’t know other guests. And, there’s a weird thing that happens when we are around others we don’t know. We get nervous, worried or even quiet…we make ourselves small. Because we often think we have to impress these people we don’t know.

But, what if you let others impress you?

What if you could be your fully awesome self, and instead of having to feel like you have to sound cool or impress these strangers you let them impress you?

What questions would you ask? What could you learn? How would the conversation change? How more yourself would you feel?

There is this amazing thing that happens when you ask people to “tell me more.” They get an opportunity to share what they are excited and passionate about. And then they become a little more vulnerable and trust ensues. You learn new things you may never have. You also don’t leave feeling like you didn’t share your truth.

And, people after they share there thing will be excited to hear about your thing. And you’ll feel safe to share what you’re most excited about.

So, go ahead and let others impress you this week!

In fact, I’ll start, I want to hear what you’re most excited about right now. Let me know in the comments below or comment below.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Pursue Purpose Instead

While flying here to my home in Siem Reap, Cambodia I saw that the movie “The Pursuit of Happiness” was available. I decided not to watch it after I cried at the end of “The Female Brain.” But, it reminded me of something I had heard recently. That they have done lots of studies and what people are looking for is not happiness. It’s Purpose.

Yep, purpose.

purpose
/ˈpəːpəs/
noun
the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.
“the purpose of the meeting is to appoint a trustee”
synonyms: motivemotivation, grounds, causeimpetusoccasionreasonpointbasisjustification More

Well, isn’t that interesting? This whole time as adults we are working so hard at trying to be happy. But, really, what we want is a purpose.

And, if you’re reading this thinking, I am doing my purpose and I am not happy.

I wonder if you’re focusing on that happiness instead of diving in deep to fully enjoying your purpose?

I know for me when I took a moment to realize how lucky I am to be doing what I feel is my purpose today life got a little easier. My steps got a little lighter. My smile a bit brighter.

If you’re reading this because you haven’t figured out your purpose yet. Two things you can try this week

  1. What is it that people often ask you for? What are the questions you are constantly answering? How can what you know be wrapped differently than what you’re doing with it today?
  2. And, then, try those ideas out! Here’s the thing, even if #1 leads to a dead end CLARITY COMES FROM ACTION. You can think your purpose into being.

No matter if you know your purpose or you don’t this week try to reframe your drive towards purpose rather than happiness. See what happens!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Evaluate, Cross Off, Start Anew

Last week was my birthday! And, growing up I hated having a birthday that was at the beginning of the year. It was cold and most people forgot. Then, as I grew older I realized it was even worse! My friends were eating healthier so they didn’t want to go out to eat, they are doing dry-anuary so they don’t want to drink. There is nothing good at the stores and it’s still cold. But, despite all that junk, I LOVE my birthday date.

Yep, I love having a birthday at the end of January because it’s like having a new year all over again. I use my birthday to evaluate the goals I have set for myself for the year. How am I liking them? Are they working? If they aren’t working why not? If I don’t like them what needs to change? Do I need to delete these goals? Did I pick up someone else’s goals by mistake?

I choose to use my Bday as a great spot to do a new year just for me. But, here’s the beauty of this, you don’t need to have a birthday in January to do this. You can evaluate your goals at any time. After all, they are your goals.

So, set a reminder in your phone for as often as you want to do a check-in. I would def do it this week. It can be your gift to me!

What goals do you want to:

-keep

-delete

-adjust

-make bigger

-make longer

-cross off

-give the boot

-give a hug

-make more space for

etc. etc.

This week take a moment to evaluate, cross off or start anew. Who said new years is only on January 1st?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Where Will You Spend Your Freakout Funds?

This week it was almost impossible for me to get my work done. I had done a lot of it in advance. But, as each day passed and I saw my must read, must do emails grow and grow this pain inside me also continued to grow.

Have you ever felt that? That constant pull that you’re not doing enough? That you could be doing more? That you need to be doing more?

The truth is if I had given up my workouts our an hour or two of sleep each night I could totally have gotten to all those emails and maybe even more. But, I would also have been putting myself in a place to become sick, tired and worthless during the day.

I played this tug of war game inside my head for the first day and into the second day. And, then I remembered a “note 2 inspire” from a while back. It was one on “Controlling your controllables.”

It’s absolutely a waste of time to worry about the things in which you have little to no control over. And, we only get so much time and energy in a day. It’s like money. You can only spend what you have.

Do you really want to waste your freakout funds on something you have no control over? Or, is it better to let go of what you can’t control and freak out on something you can?

This week, if you feel the anxiety bubbling up take a moment to see if that freak out is worth the funds you’ve got or if you should save it for something else?

xx~LL