Notes 2 Inspire: Pursue Purpose Instead

While flying here to my home in Siem Reap, Cambodia I saw that the movie “The Pursuit of Happiness” was available. I decided not to watch it after I cried at the end of “The Female Brain.” But, it reminded me of something I had heard recently. That they have done lots of studies and what people are looking for is not happiness. It’s Purpose.

Yep, purpose.

purpose
/ˈpəːpəs/
noun
the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.
“the purpose of the meeting is to appoint a trustee”
synonyms: motivemotivation, grounds, causeimpetusoccasionreasonpointbasisjustification More

Well, isn’t that interesting? This whole time as adults we are working so hard at trying to be happy. But, really, what we want is a purpose.

And, if you’re reading this thinking, I am doing my purpose and I am not happy.

I wonder if you’re focusing on that happiness instead of diving in deep to fully enjoying your purpose?

I know for me when I took a moment to realize how lucky I am to be doing what I feel is my purpose today life got a little easier. My steps got a little lighter. My smile a bit brighter.

If you’re reading this because you haven’t figured out your purpose yet. Two things you can try this week

  1. What is it that people often ask you for? What are the questions you are constantly answering? How can what you know be wrapped differently than what you’re doing with it today?
  2. And, then, try those ideas out! Here’s the thing, even if #1 leads to a dead end CLARITY COMES FROM ACTION. You can think your purpose into being.

No matter if you know your purpose or you don’t this week try to reframe your drive towards purpose rather than happiness. See what happens!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Evaluate, Cross Off, Start Anew

Last week was my birthday! And, growing up I hated having a birthday that was at the beginning of the year. It was cold and most people forgot. Then, as I grew older I realized it was even worse! My friends were eating healthier so they didn’t want to go out to eat, they are doing dry-anuary so they don’t want to drink. There is nothing good at the stores and it’s still cold. But, despite all that junk, I LOVE my birthday date.

Yep, I love having a birthday at the end of January because it’s like having a new year all over again. I use my birthday to evaluate the goals I have set for myself for the year. How am I liking them? Are they working? If they aren’t working why not? If I don’t like them what needs to change? Do I need to delete these goals? Did I pick up someone else’s goals by mistake?

I choose to use my Bday as a great spot to do a new year just for me. But, here’s the beauty of this, you don’t need to have a birthday in January to do this. You can evaluate your goals at any time. After all, they are your goals.

So, set a reminder in your phone for as often as you want to do a check-in. I would def do it this week. It can be your gift to me!

What goals do you want to:

-keep

-delete

-adjust

-make bigger

-make longer

-cross off

-give the boot

-give a hug

-make more space for

etc. etc.

This week take a moment to evaluate, cross off or start anew. Who said new years is only on January 1st?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Where Will You Spend Your Freakout Funds?

This week it was almost impossible for me to get my work done. I had done a lot of it in advance. But, as each day passed and I saw my must read, must do emails grow and grow this pain inside me also continued to grow.

Have you ever felt that? That constant pull that you’re not doing enough? That you could be doing more? That you need to be doing more?

The truth is if I had given up my workouts our an hour or two of sleep each night I could totally have gotten to all those emails and maybe even more. But, I would also have been putting myself in a place to become sick, tired and worthless during the day.

I played this tug of war game inside my head for the first day and into the second day. And, then I remembered a “note 2 inspire” from a while back. It was one on “Controlling your controllables.”

It’s absolutely a waste of time to worry about the things in which you have little to no control over. And, we only get so much time and energy in a day. It’s like money. You can only spend what you have.

Do you really want to waste your freakout funds on something you have no control over? Or, is it better to let go of what you can’t control and freak out on something you can?

This week, if you feel the anxiety bubbling up take a moment to see if that freak out is worth the funds you’ve got or if you should save it for something else?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: People Want Familiar

People want familiar! Yes, they do! I know you think they want famous. But, think about it for a minute.

Whose the best hairdresser in town? YOURS

Where’s the best place to shop? The place you shop at!

Who should work on my car? Your mechanics shop!

When is the last time someone asked you a question about something and you referred them to a famous person, business, a restaurant you’ve never been or met? Go ahead, think about it, I’ll wait.

Can’t think of a time? Me either! Why? Because we want our people to know and use our people. We love community and seek connection.

Recently I did a chat about Pilates, what it is and how people in my community could take with me.
Why? Because if people in my area don’t know who I am how will they know I’m the Pilates person for them? People want what and who they know.

So whatever it is you do that you want people to do with you they have to know you. So, go ahead and share your gift, share who you are, shout it out to peeps so they can share with their friends.  You don’t need to be famous, instafamous a Youtuber. You don’t need some beautiful genealogy or great PR person.

You just need to be you, share who you are with people and allow them to see what it would be like to work with you!

You IG game doesn’t have to be en pointe. It could be pics of you doing what you love! In fact, it should!

Then as people in your community get to know who you are, what you do and why you rock they’ll flock to you!

So, as you feel the pressures make your magic happen remember people truly want familiar over famous.
They want you!

This week share more of who you are with people!

Xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: It’s Ok to Upgrade!

Years ago I wrote a blog post when for another platform about “upgrading yourself” rather than resolving to be someone else. I am a big believer in goals, intentions, and visions. But, I don’t like the whole “new year, new you” stuff. I think it’s the wrong message.

There is nothing wrong with who you are.

You are the only You and I know that’s woo-woo but it’s true.

One of my clients and top podcaster Cather Heller loves to remind her listeners that “you won the lottery.” The chances that You became You are one in how many million. So, why trade yourself in just because it’s a new year.

I like to think of new goals, intentions or visions as doing an update or an upgrade. My iPhone X is still an iPhone. It can do more things because technology has changed. But, at its core, it’s still an iPhone.

This week, as the remaining promos and discounts claiming to be the key to the new, improved you flood your minds-eye remember you are amazing. It’s ok to Upgrade but there is no need to become something or someone else. The world needs You!

Notes 2 Inspire: It’s Ok to be Human

Ever get frustrated with yourself?

Yeah, me either!

Ha just kidding.

But, seriously, I have found that when I get frustrated its due to some sort of expectation I placed on myself. For example, I wanted to get 5 blogs written in one afternoon. I didn’t get any written and I was starting to feel like I was a bit of a “failure” on my to-do list.

Even as I write that I cringe at how awful that sounds and you are probably already getting ready to tell me that “it’s all going to be ok, don’t be so hard on yourself.”

And, if the shoe were on the other foot I would say the same things. But, the point is we should be able to tell ourselves these kind words.

I know that you too have been hard on yourself for not meeting your own expectations.

There are quotes and meme’s and even a past “note 2 inspire” on talking to yourself as if you were your own best friend!

But, it’s not just so that you say nice words to yourself. The thing is my friends is that we are human. We (luckily) are not perfect. We will make mistakes, miss deadlines, change our minds.

Yes, I would love for you to tell yourself you’re awesome all the time. But, it can be even simpler than that. You can just recognize you’re human!

You are a human and that’s amazing!

You will meet and miss deadlines. You will rock and you will not rock as much all the time.

And, instead of getting upset at yourself or trying to pump yourself up try to just remember that you are a human being. You’re not a robot or a superhuman.

This week, if you don’t do something you expected to do instead of wasting time beating yourself up pinch yourself to feel you are human and make adjustments to the plan!

You got this!

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Building an Image vs Making an Impact

It seems like everyone is becoming some sort of ‘influencer.’ As I scroll through Instagram and see the more curated photos and perfectly chosen inspirational quotes. And, while I love a good boost of inspo and clearly I hope you do too this is a “note 2 inspire after all. I think it’s easy to get swept up by the branding and appearances of it all instead of the impact you desire to make.

I don’t think any ‘influencer’ got into it thinking about the perfect image they could create I believe that each one of us does what we do or what we want to do because we hope to help someone else. But, it’s easy to get more obsessed with the branding, with the image and the appearance and forget about what we wanted to do in the first place-make an impact!

And, the funny thing about this switching your focus to image, branding and appearances is that is more stressful and creates more anxiety. We begin to worry about what people will think. Instead of how people will feel.

Nothing is perfect. In fact, curation and perfection are boring.

When you place your focus back on making that impact, affecting those who you care about, sharing your experience and feelings to help others feel better, stronger and more connected not only is life more fulfilling but you don’t care about the things that don’t matter.

This week, try to keep your focus on the impact you want to have and worry less about the image.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Create More than You Consume

Do you feel empowered after you scroll the interwebs? Or, do you feel overwhelmed, a bit bummed, or maybe even “behind?”

When we scroll through Instagram, Fb etc it is easy to compare our “work in progress” with someone else’s filtered and curated end product. I am not saying that what they post isn’t authentic or worthy. I too love a good filter and don’t post when my website crashes or when I totally miss a deadline. But, that’s actually my point. We all tend to post the best version of whatever is happening. But, it’s easy to forget that those pics and posts are the best versions of that person’s day, it may or may not be reality and it causes us to feel like we are behind in the race. That we aren’t “doing it.”

I try to create more than I consume. Not because I want to bombard people with beautiful pictures. That’s not it at all! But, what I mean is, that I try not to consume more of others ‘stuff’ than I can create of my own.

And, by creating I don’t mean post more on social!

I create blogs to help others, I create webinars, I journal, workout or film videos to help others. The more I create to help others with their questions or needs the better I feel. I don’t want you to create for the sake of being busy. I hope you can find ways to create that shares your gifts and helps others.

How do you feel after you scrolled through IG for 30 min? Do you feel like you can take on the world? If you do that’s awesome. But, if you feel whelmed or worse then make a deal with yourself this week to create more than you consume!

I can’t wait to see what you create this week.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Copy Less, Guess More!

Back when I was a student I hated failing. And, by failing I mean getting anything less than an ‘A’ on an assignment or test. I will never forget the moment I thought about cheating on a test. I remember seeing the answers on my neighbor’s test so clearly and so easily. It was like they were wanting me to see them! But, as my eyes started to zero in and my mind was trying to justify copying my neighbor’s answers someone sneezed. The teacher looked up and I lost my nerve to copy those answers.

I’d like to think I passed some life test but the truth is had that person not sneezed I wonder if I would have copied them. A week later I found out the answers I was about to copy were wrong. I got them correct. Sure I guessed but I still went with my gut on it. That’s when I realized that copying someone else was not going to be the answers I needed in school and this lesson translated into life.

We so often compare ourselves to others. We think the way they share their good news, the font they use, the filters the colors or the hashtags are the keys to whatever kingdom we seek to have. But, the truth is every time to copy someone else you settling to be what they are doing. You cannot be you, grow your life or your business if you are copying someone else. And, worse, you don’t even know if what they are doing is right for them let alone the best step for you!

So, look, I get it, it’s tempting. I mean, the answers are right there. Waiting for us to just copy and do what they are doing. But, if you copy the “competition” or the people who have gone ahead of you, forged a path you will only get as far as they did. And, I know you were meant for more!

This week, where can you break from tradition? What can you do that feels a little scary? What steps can you take that you don’t know the answer to?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Get Out of the Harbor!

I hate those things that “pop-up” out of nowhere and block me from where I want to go, what I want to do or feel like they are trying to take me down. Do you know what I am talking about? You’re going on your journey, making your goals and magic happen and BOOM! Out of nowhere, your website goes down, someone writes something cruel on your post or steals your credit card and now you have to deal with that. When all you want to be doing is getting your message out there and building your business. Rachel Hollis said on a recent podcast “Ships are safe at harbor but that’s not what they’re made for.” And neither are YOU!

So, you are finally getting the guts up to get out of “the harbor” and then something happens that makes you wish you had just stayed at home. Not put yourself out there. Not put money or time into a project because the outcome wasn’t what you anticipated.

Last week I arrived home from my three week trip of Vegas, Melbourne, and Cambodia. After months and years of blogging, writing, teaching and even going live I was nervous and worried. What if people didn’t like the workshops? Maybe I should have just stayed at home? But, the opposite was true. They loved all of it! And, I wouldn’t know that if I hadn’t gotten out of the “harbor.” It was an incredible adventure where I met many of you readers in real life! The trip was incredibly amazing and allowed me to share my workshops and Pilates teaching with so many people.

My point in sharing this is, you were meant to get out and share your gifts. And, getting outside the comforts of the neighborhood, your office, your studio, your computer is necessary! I cannot guarantee it will be smooth sailing. In fact, it’s almost better if it’s not. There is a lot of growth in things not going as planned.  I do wish for your absolute health and safety, but putting yourself out there, sharing your gifts is scary but not sharing your gifts is scarier.

Have you been holding yourself back? Worried about what will happen? Worried about what others will say? Worried about what others will do? You may be safe where you sit but was that what you were made for?

This week consider pushing your limits a little bit. If you make a mistake re-read last week’s Note 2 inspire. You cannot control the outcomes or actions of others but you can captain your own ship! And, isn’t that exciting? What will you see when you’re out of the harbor?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Say What You Want Out Loud

Do you keep your dreams a secret? Tell me if this sounds familiar… You have an idea for your life or your business but you don’t want to share it. You don’t want anyone to copy what you are doing. You keep it to yourself until you’re “ready.” How often does that work out for you? When was the last time something you wanted you kept secret and then it happened? If you have been successful this way that’s amazing. But, as I look back at all the things I have that I wanted the ones that have come to fruition came because of the help of others. Because I told somebody something I wanted.

For example, people ask me how I got my retreat space in Cambodia often. I tell them, I wanted it and I told everyone in Siem Reap what I wanted. I told them what I was planning on doing. And, even though when I was there and there were no possible retreat spaces to buy I just kept telling people I knew there what I was looking for. One day, a house that was not listed became available. Someone told someone and that person told someone who I had told what I wanted. And boom! I got it!

I only have my house there because I did not keep my plans a secret.

My retreat space was not from manifestation alone. It was from the help of others!

Here’s the thing. I could have been worried someone else would hear my idea and copy me. But, life is too short to worry about that. And the truth is 98% of people will never act on their dreams. Isn’t that insane!?

And, an even better thing, people want to help you! They want you to be happy! They want to be part of the story that is YOU.

So, this week, don’t keep to yourself what it is that you want! Tell someone what you’re working on. Who knows who they know who could have the keys to your dreams.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Get Out of Your Own Way!

Stand up! Yep, as you read this stand up. Ok, please stand up while you read this. I want you to feel something that happens in your mind on a regular basis with your own body. Yes, in your mind you do something probably without even noticing it. You limit yourself. So, stand up and try this with me.

Stretch your arms up to the sky and see how far you can stretch.

Hold it for a second!

Does it feel good to stand up and stretch as much as you can?

Ok, relax.

Now, stand up and do it again. But, this time I want you to stretch 2 inches taller than before.

Go!

Oh my, doesn’t that feel so good!

Now, go ahead and relax. Did you stretch taller the second time?

Why is it that the second time you stretched taller when I asked you to but the first time you didn’t get that far?

The first time I asked you to do as much as you can and somehow the second time because I suggested it you could get taller. The first time you could have done it but you stopped yourself. Your brain said this is as far as I can go. But it wasn’t.

In life, we hit roadblocks, obstacles and limiting thoughts on a daily basis. It’s our own mind that is keeping us for doing more.

This week, notice where you are holding yourself back and tell yourself you can do two more inches.

xx~LL