Notes 2 Inspire: Go Ahead, Disappoint People

I made a lot of decisions growing up because I wanted to make sure my family was proud of me. Sound familiar? People from my hometown understand graduating with high honors and getting promoted, working up the corporate ladder.

One day with a year left of college I went home to see my sister graduate. I ran into a girl I knew from growing up and when she saw me she told me all about her life. She was so excited about it. When I told her what I had been working on “graduating next year, running my own stores and living by the beach” she said, “that it?”

That’s IT!

Inside I wanted to scream at her. Did she even know how hard I was working? How many hours I was working each week? How I was carrying 17 units and running a store while managing a staff of 15?

No, she didn’t. And, even if she did it wouldn’t have impressed her.

That’s when I realized no matter what you do you will disappoint people!

So you may as well get started!

This week, how many things can you do to disappoint anyone but you?

Try it out!

It’s kind of refreshing.

Make decisions based on how you will feel about yourself at the end of the day and not who you’ll disappoint. And, by the way, you’re going to disappoint people who truly see and care about you. It’s just not possible.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Break the Pattern

Did you know that 95% of your decisions each day are unconscious? That’s insane, isn’t it?

Only 5% of the decision you make each day are conscious decisions.

Which means, 95% of the things you do, you’re doing because of a pattern you created. And you could have created that last year, five years ago or even when you were a little kid!

So, if you’re wanting a change, you want something new you have to make new decisions. Conscious decisions. You have to break the pattern.

And, here is the thing, when you break the pattern it won’t feel good. It will feel like you lost a part of you. Especially the longer you’ve had it around.

You may not be doing your dream because the pattern you use to make decisions with believes you are not good enough or you are too much.

What’s something you can do differently this week? Something crazy? Out of the ordinary?

Before you can talk yourself out it, use an old pattern, break it. Give it a while.

It won’t be easy. But, wouldn’t be cool to see what life is like when more of your decisions each day are conscious?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: New Level, New Devil

Do you ever find yourself saying “once I get to ___ it’ll be better”? And, as you get closer and closer to your next level- website launch, new show, bigger space, and goal achieved it almost feels harder. And, then when you finally get a chance to break through. There is more work.

Sure, it’s exciting, I mean, you made it!

And, I want you to CELEBRATE

You did it. You are at the next level in your life, goal or business.

But, I wish someone had told me this theory years ago. Because I would have enjoyed being exactly where I was more.

See, I know you’re working hard. You want to more. You’re trying to move up. To get to the next level. And, if it’s because you’re ready, it’s time and it’s your next step, LEVEL UP MY FRIEND!

But, if you’re leveling up to escape where you are, to get out of the hardships of being where you are then please remember. New Level New Devil.

So, my friend, you got to be ready to level up.

This week, can you see where you are ready to level up and where you are forcing it because you just don’t like how hard your now is.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: What If You Didn’t Care About the Hoopla

Do you ever start to do something and then freeze, worry, stress or totally freak out because you’re so worried about the outcome you can’t think about the next step? When’s the last time you had an idea but the stress that it wouldn’t work out, or the feelings of what people might think stopped you from seeing it through? I have moments where I go to do something and my “what would people think” worries start speaking. And, they don’t like to whisper.

But, then one day I just didn’t care. I was too tired to care about the hoopla. Then outcome. I just had to do the thing! And, you know what? There were zero fireworks. No one threw me a party and awarded me for my efforts. The idea came, I made it happen and it did its thing. And you want to know something?

It was freaking glorious!

Yep, the freedom to not give an F about what happened after I completed the idea was so invigorating I did it again. And again. And, now, there is nothing stopping me from just trying out the ideas that come my way. Some of them fall flat and I get awesome feedback from that. And others, well, they exceed my expectations. Like my AGENCY Mastermind. I didn’t put any hoopla expectations on this idea. I just had to birth it. And, it blows my mind every day.

This week, what if you didn’t care about the hoopla? What would you do?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Let Others Impress You

Ever been to a party? ha, lame question. Ever been around people you don’t know very well? The answer is probably yes. Can you recall one of the recent party’s you went to? Chances are you knew someone there but you probably also didn’t know other guests. And, there’s a weird thing that happens when we are around others we don’t know. We get nervous, worried or even quiet…we make ourselves small. Because we often think we have to impress these people we don’t know.

But, what if you let others impress you?

What if you could be your fully awesome self, and instead of having to feel like you have to sound cool or impress these strangers you let them impress you?

What questions would you ask? What could you learn? How would the conversation change? How more yourself would you feel?

There is this amazing thing that happens when you ask people to “tell me more.” They get an opportunity to share what they are excited and passionate about. And then they become a little more vulnerable and trust ensues. You learn new things you may never have. You also don’t leave feeling like you didn’t share your truth.

And, people after they share there thing will be excited to hear about your thing. And you’ll feel safe to share what you’re most excited about.

So, go ahead and let others impress you this week!

In fact, I’ll start, I want to hear what you’re most excited about right now. Let me know in the comments below or comment below.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Pursue Purpose Instead

While flying here to my home in Siem Reap, Cambodia I saw that the movie “The Pursuit of Happiness” was available. I decided not to watch it after I cried at the end of “The Female Brain.” But, it reminded me of something I had heard recently. That they have done lots of studies and what people are looking for is not happiness. It’s Purpose.

Yep, purpose.

purpose
/ˈpəːpəs/
noun
the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.
“the purpose of the meeting is to appoint a trustee”
synonyms: motivemotivation, grounds, causeimpetusoccasionreasonpointbasisjustification More

Well, isn’t that interesting? This whole time as adults we are working so hard at trying to be happy. But, really, what we want is a purpose.

And, if you’re reading this thinking, I am doing my purpose and I am not happy.

I wonder if you’re focusing on that happiness instead of diving in deep to fully enjoying your purpose?

I know for me when I took a moment to realize how lucky I am to be doing what I feel is my purpose today life got a little easier. My steps got a little lighter. My smile a bit brighter.

If you’re reading this because you haven’t figured out your purpose yet. Two things you can try this week

  1. What is it that people often ask you for? What are the questions you are constantly answering? How can what you know be wrapped differently than what you’re doing with it today?
  2. And, then, try those ideas out! Here’s the thing, even if #1 leads to a dead end CLARITY COMES FROM ACTION. You can think your purpose into being.

No matter if you know your purpose or you don’t this week try to reframe your drive towards purpose rather than happiness. See what happens!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Evaluate, Cross Off, Start Anew

Last week was my birthday! And, growing up I hated having a birthday that was at the beginning of the year. It was cold and most people forgot. Then, as I grew older I realized it was even worse! My friends were eating healthier so they didn’t want to go out to eat, they are doing dry-anuary so they don’t want to drink. There is nothing good at the stores and it’s still cold. But, despite all that junk, I LOVE my birthday date.

Yep, I love having a birthday at the end of January because it’s like having a new year all over again. I use my birthday to evaluate the goals I have set for myself for the year. How am I liking them? Are they working? If they aren’t working why not? If I don’t like them what needs to change? Do I need to delete these goals? Did I pick up someone else’s goals by mistake?

I choose to use my Bday as a great spot to do a new year just for me. But, here’s the beauty of this, you don’t need to have a birthday in January to do this. You can evaluate your goals at any time. After all, they are your goals.

So, set a reminder in your phone for as often as you want to do a check-in. I would def do it this week. It can be your gift to me!

What goals do you want to:

-keep

-delete

-adjust

-make bigger

-make longer

-cross off

-give the boot

-give a hug

-make more space for

etc. etc.

This week take a moment to evaluate, cross off or start anew. Who said new years is only on January 1st?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Where Will You Spend Your Freakout Funds?

This week it was almost impossible for me to get my work done. I had done a lot of it in advance. But, as each day passed and I saw my must read, must do emails grow and grow this pain inside me also continued to grow.

Have you ever felt that? That constant pull that you’re not doing enough? That you could be doing more? That you need to be doing more?

The truth is if I had given up my workouts our an hour or two of sleep each night I could totally have gotten to all those emails and maybe even more. But, I would also have been putting myself in a place to become sick, tired and worthless during the day.

I played this tug of war game inside my head for the first day and into the second day. And, then I remembered a “note 2 inspire” from a while back. It was one on “Controlling your controllables.”

It’s absolutely a waste of time to worry about the things in which you have little to no control over. And, we only get so much time and energy in a day. It’s like money. You can only spend what you have.

Do you really want to waste your freakout funds on something you have no control over? Or, is it better to let go of what you can’t control and freak out on something you can?

This week, if you feel the anxiety bubbling up take a moment to see if that freak out is worth the funds you’ve got or if you should save it for something else?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: People Want Familiar

People want familiar! Yes, they do! I know you think they want famous. But, think about it for a minute.

Whose the best hairdresser in town? YOURS

Where’s the best place to shop? The place you shop at!

Who should work on my car? Your mechanics shop!

When is the last time someone asked you a question about something and you referred them to a famous person, business, a restaurant you’ve never been or met? Go ahead, think about it, I’ll wait.

Can’t think of a time? Me either! Why? Because we want our people to know and use our people. We love community and seek connection.

Recently I did a chat about Pilates, what it is and how people in my community could take with me.
Why? Because if people in my area don’t know who I am how will they know I’m the Pilates person for them? People want what and who they know.

So whatever it is you do that you want people to do with you they have to know you. So, go ahead and share your gift, share who you are, shout it out to peeps so they can share with their friends.  You don’t need to be famous, instafamous a Youtuber. You don’t need some beautiful genealogy or great PR person.

You just need to be you, share who you are with people and allow them to see what it would be like to work with you!

You IG game doesn’t have to be en pointe. It could be pics of you doing what you love! In fact, it should!

Then as people in your community get to know who you are, what you do and why you rock they’ll flock to you!

So, as you feel the pressures make your magic happen remember people truly want familiar over famous.
They want you!

This week share more of who you are with people!

Xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: It’s Ok to Upgrade!

Years ago I wrote a blog post when for another platform about “upgrading yourself” rather than resolving to be someone else. I am a big believer in goals, intentions, and visions. But, I don’t like the whole “new year, new you” stuff. I think it’s the wrong message.

There is nothing wrong with who you are.

You are the only You and I know that’s woo-woo but it’s true.

One of my clients and top podcaster Cather Heller loves to remind her listeners that “you won the lottery.” The chances that You became You are one in how many million. So, why trade yourself in just because it’s a new year.

I like to think of new goals, intentions or visions as doing an update or an upgrade. My iPhone X is still an iPhone. It can do more things because technology has changed. But, at its core, it’s still an iPhone.

This week, as the remaining promos and discounts claiming to be the key to the new, improved you flood your minds-eye remember you are amazing. It’s ok to Upgrade but there is no need to become something or someone else. The world needs You!

Notes 2 Inspire: It’s Ok to be Human

Ever get frustrated with yourself?

Yeah, me either!

Ha just kidding.

But, seriously, I have found that when I get frustrated its due to some sort of expectation I placed on myself. For example, I wanted to get 5 blogs written in one afternoon. I didn’t get any written and I was starting to feel like I was a bit of a “failure” on my to-do list.

Even as I write that I cringe at how awful that sounds and you are probably already getting ready to tell me that “it’s all going to be ok, don’t be so hard on yourself.”

And, if the shoe were on the other foot I would say the same things. But, the point is we should be able to tell ourselves these kind words.

I know that you too have been hard on yourself for not meeting your own expectations.

There are quotes and meme’s and even a past “note 2 inspire” on talking to yourself as if you were your own best friend!

But, it’s not just so that you say nice words to yourself. The thing is my friends is that we are human. We (luckily) are not perfect. We will make mistakes, miss deadlines, change our minds.

Yes, I would love for you to tell yourself you’re awesome all the time. But, it can be even simpler than that. You can just recognize you’re human!

You are a human and that’s amazing!

You will meet and miss deadlines. You will rock and you will not rock as much all the time.

And, instead of getting upset at yourself or trying to pump yourself up try to just remember that you are a human being. You’re not a robot or a superhuman.

This week, if you don’t do something you expected to do instead of wasting time beating yourself up pinch yourself to feel you are human and make adjustments to the plan!

You got this!

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Building an Image vs Making an Impact

It seems like everyone is becoming some sort of ‘influencer.’ As I scroll through Instagram and see the more curated photos and perfectly chosen inspirational quotes. And, while I love a good boost of inspo and clearly I hope you do too this is a “note 2 inspire after all. I think it’s easy to get swept up by the branding and appearances of it all instead of the impact you desire to make.

I don’t think any ‘influencer’ got into it thinking about the perfect image they could create I believe that each one of us does what we do or what we want to do because we hope to help someone else. But, it’s easy to get more obsessed with the branding, with the image and the appearance and forget about what we wanted to do in the first place-make an impact!

And, the funny thing about this switching your focus to image, branding and appearances is that is more stressful and creates more anxiety. We begin to worry about what people will think. Instead of how people will feel.

Nothing is perfect. In fact, curation and perfection are boring.

When you place your focus back on making that impact, affecting those who you care about, sharing your experience and feelings to help others feel better, stronger and more connected not only is life more fulfilling but you don’t care about the things that don’t matter.

This week, try to keep your focus on the impact you want to have and worry less about the image.

xx~LL