Notes 2 Inspire: Evaluate, Cross Off, Start Anew

Last week was my birthday! And, growing up I hated having a birthday that was at the beginning of the year. It was cold and most people forgot. Then, as I grew older I realized it was even worse! My friends were eating healthier so they didn’t want to go out to eat, they are doing dry-anuary so they don’t want to drink. There is nothing good at the stores and it’s still cold. But, despite all that junk, I LOVE my birthday date.

Yep, I love having a birthday at the end of January because it’s like having a new year all over again. I use my birthday to evaluate the goals I have set for myself for the year. How am I liking them? Are they working? If they aren’t working why not? If I don’t like them what needs to change? Do I need to delete these goals? Did I pick up someone else’s goals by mistake?

I choose to use my Bday as a great spot to do a new year just for me. But, here’s the beauty of this, you don’t need to have a birthday in January to do this. You can evaluate your goals at any time. After all, they are your goals.

So, set a reminder in your phone for as often as you want to do a check-in. I would def do it this week. It can be your gift to me!

What goals do you want to:

-keep

-delete

-adjust

-make bigger

-make longer

-cross off

-give the boot

-give a hug

-make more space for

etc. etc.

This week take a moment to evaluate, cross off or start anew. Who said new years is only on January 1st?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: And, Now, this is How it is

Ever feel like you just keep getting hit with roadblocks, events, delays, wrong turns, things out of your control, insert anything here?

I’m a massive planner and love to design my schedule around my goals and things that fuel my soul. But, rarely does the schedule I design for the week go exactly as planned. Does that sound familiar to you?

On most days a little derailment is not noticeable. But, there are days when one thing has a domino effect and this can throw everything off, including the confidence in who we are and what we do.

But, what if we just got used to that?

What if we planned for the ideal and then as things changed outside of our control we just said: “and, now, this is how it is?”

Flight is late…and now this is how it is.

Hair appointment canceled…and now this is how it is.

Car sideswiped so now the car is in the shop…and now this is how it is.

Positive awesome opportunity presents itself…and now this is how it is.

What if this week instead of getting frustrated with thing out of your control you reframed it with and now this is how it is? How do you think that would feel?

Xx~LL

How to Put Your Goals in First

I’ll never forget the first time I sat down to do my goals. I did the whole 10-year vision and plan with them. I loved it! I couldn’t believe the daring goals I had written down. And, for the most part, all of those goals happened within three years not ten! But, a few didn’t. And, it took me another goal setting experience, a panic attack and a few more years to figure out why. Sure, there was a goal or two that really just sounded good but wasn’t truly my own. But, a couple others were things I really did want to happen. But, they hadn’t and it wasn’t because they were out of my control. Nope, they were totally within my reach. I just hadn’t put them first. I had not put me first!

As Pilates Instructors and Studio Owners it is not always easy to put our wants, needs and desires first. In fact, sometimes it just feels impossible!! But, the thing is while we are in the “service industry” we are not of service to others. If we do not put our goals in our schedule they will not happen and we will lose inspiration. If we do not put our ideas in place and even fail along the way we will wonder why we are doing what we are doing. We will feel the exhaustion that comes from pushing a boulder up a hill. We will start to resent our clients, our work and feel powerless in our circumstances. And, doesn’t that just sound awful?

When I first became a Pilates Instructor I had a very grandiose idea for what I was going to do and be as an instructor. And, just like my goals setting earlier I hit most of them. And a few others I actually denounced and said to those who knew of them that I didn’t really want them or that now wasn’t the right time. Truthfully, I was so busy making others goals happen that I didn’t have the time or energy to give to my own. And, I didn’t believe my goals were possible, I mean, who was I to want those goals?

Well, I wish someone had told my newbie teacher self what I know now. If you want it, you do the work and you maintain control over your schedule and needs you can have it all and it will happen. But, the problem isn’t that you don’t know what you want, and it’s not really that you don’t have the skills or deserve it. It’s that you have to make a space for your magic to happen.

But, as teachers and studio owners, it’s easier to say yes to a client, to come in on our day off or to stay for another hour to get a client in. It’s easier to cover for a teacher instead of getting someone else. It’s easier to do it all ourselves rather than delegate it out! Is this sounding familiar?

Last week I had the opportunity to take a couple days off during the week. During days I usually teach. I almost turned it down. But, one of my goals has always been that I can travel more often. That I can have a schedule that is flexible to me taking a trip for work or for fun. So before I hit send on my declined response I remembered my goals. And, I said yes instead.

Sure, it required me to move a lot of peeps. But, my schedule has to reflect my goals. And, it didn’t always do that…hence the panic attack several years ago. I was stressed beyond my abilities because I was trying to do others goals and fit in my own. And, since getting that straightened out I have made a point to always put my schedule together first. But, I know you’re wondering how do you do that? So, let me stop talking about me and give you tips to help you!

  1. Know what you want! If you don’t we can’t create a schedule around nothing
  2. You have to commit and protect it! Your clients, team, family, and friends do not mean to take you away from your goals. They don’t know that when they ask to come in at 5 pm on a Monday that they are asking for you to give up on your favorite class. You have to tell them “No, I am not available at that time. But, I have ___ or ____.”
  3. Do one thing a day towards your goals. If you put off the action items that help propel you towards what you want you can’t magically get what you want. Isn’t the definition of luck where preparation meets opportunity. You have to do the preparation so that you can find the intersection.
  4. Say No more often…I know this is basically a repeat of #2 but it’s that important! You cannot say yes to everyone and You. So, before you respond to something practice artful ways of saying no. For example, “let me check my schedule and get back to you.” Or, “I’d love to but, until the ____ I cannot take on any projects right now.”
  5. Once a week check in and make sure you are putting you in the schedule first. I used to only check on my goals quarterly. But, then I noticed that I would skip a few weeks on my stuff and my stress levels would start to rise. So, I started doing a weekly check-in. This helps me stay on top of what I need to be doing each week.
  6. Get an accountability partner! Tell someone close to you what you are working on so that it’s even harder to say “yes” to someone else and “no” to yourself. If you are really good at putting yourself last get a few accountability partners!
  7. Give yourself a break! If you miss a week, say yes when you should have said no or feel like your goals have changed it’s all OK! Start over where you left off.
  8. Design you Dream Schedule! This is the biggest KEY to all of these tips. And, if you need help I LOVE doing this! You can do it with me one-on-one or take my course here.

Here’s the deal my friend! I am a massive believer in doing business un-usual! I don’t think there is room for you to be the same as any teacher out there or to run your studio the way others have. I believe there is plenty of room and success out there if you run your business YOUR way! With your goals, your needs and your vision in mind.

So, what’s your dream schedule look like?

xx~LL 

 

Notes 2 Inspire: Want Your Dreams More

You have to want your DREAMS more than your DRAMA

What do you want for today, tomorrow, next year, future…?

Why haven’t you been able to do it?

Have you ever heard yourself making an excuse for not doing something? Like “I wanted to write that down but I didn’t have a pen”

Or, maybe you qualify by saying “its hard because…”

Or, maybe you don’t have enough “time.”

Here’s the thing…I do not doubt that there are tough barriers along the way to getting what you want. And, I would be lying if I didn’t admit that every day I catch myself making up an excuse why something won’t work or didn’t work.

But, then I stop myself. I reverse the thought. I think about what I could have done to remember my to-do list if I didn’t have a pen? I think about what I would have done if it wasn’t “hard.” I ask myself what if it were easy? What if I had enough time? What would I do?

I also, get angry at my excuses. I tell them to get the F out! Because they are holding me back. It’s so much more comfortable to stay where I am, even if it means not getting what I want because I know what’s behind door #3. It’s so freaking hard to go out into the world each day towards an outcome I know nothing about. It’s safe to repeat the past even if we want a different outcome. It’s scary AF to put yourself out there and risk all the things to try something new! I so feel you on this. I experience this fear all the time.

And, I don’t always get what I wanted. But, I learn more about myself, my goal, my drive and this fabulous universe every day. In fact, I have often not received what I wanted when I want it. But, I can say as I sit here and write this that I have received more than I could have asked for.

Do I feel exhausted…sure sometimes the journey is tiring. Do I cry and feel insecure? Absolutely, happens all the time. Especially when I am not going towards my goals. When I am spending too much time on my limiting beliefs it is emotionally overwhelming. Taking action feels empowering.

So, my friends, My Pilates and Fitness pro’s, why am I sharing this with you? Because I so get that it’s not as easy as we want it to be. That some things are (actually MOST things are) easier said than done.

But, you’re so not alone. What do you need help with today?

This week, I hope you can take some time to write down what you really want. Then write down what you think your barriers are. Then turn those barriers into directions on where to go. If you want help just ask!

Xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: 3 Reasons Why

Have you ever started a project only to get halfway through and hit a roadblock? Or, maybe you got all the way to the very end of the project and found your efforts derailed?

I know I have found myself so excited about a project, goal, webinar or workshop and then found out how big the project is or hit a tech issue or some sort of barrier to completing my desire. There have been many times when that wall drops down and I’ve thought about quitting, postponing or just want to scream!

But, recently I started writing down three reasons why I want to do any new goal or project. Three reasons why this idea must come to fruition. Then when the going gets tough I simply pull out the original idea or goal and read the three reasons why I wanted to do this in the first place.

If I still believe in those reasons I find a solution rather quickly. The route might be different than I anticipated but the desire is still there. If I don’t have those reasons or the reasons no longer matter it lets me know that maybe this goal or project is not needed or necessary today. And, it’s always ok to check a goal off as finished if you no longer want or need it.

So, what are you working on? Or, what do you want to be working on? Maybe your goals for this year are getting off to a rough start. Write them down again and next to the goals/projects write three reasons why you want to do them.

What are your three reasons why?

xx~LL

Goal: Set, Delete, Repeat!

Who decided your teaching schedule? Who set your personal goals? Who influenced your professional goals?

If the answer to those questions isn’t You, You and You then we need to talk my Pilates pal! Here’s the deal, and I am going to get pretty honest with you if you do not set your own goals someone will be making sure you’re working towards their goals.

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