Notes 2 Inspire: Always Be Generous

When you are standing in line at the coffee shop do you scroll on Instagram or do you see how you can help someone you haven’t talked to in months?

When you think of someone do you text them and see how they are doing?

When offer your products or services and are rejected do you see what they need or are looking for instead?

Checking in on people you haven’t spoken to in months or years can seem weird. But, if you pair standing in line with just sending a “hey, how is it going?” to the last person in your long, long list of text messages and just see how you can help them it’ll never seem weird. In fact, it will feel normal, it will become a habit and you will grow your network and deepen friendships.

I know, you’re busy! Me too! But, have you ever been in a position where you need something from someone from a past life and it feels strange and awkward to reach out? Yeah, me too! But, if you regularly do a little check in and see if they need anything it will never feel strange. And, you never know! Being rejected by someone doesn’t mean no to everything! They may be looking for someone who is a friend of yours and then you can generously hook them up with a e-troduction and then they may think about a friend that needs what you are offering!

Always be generous doesn’t mean do everything for other people. It means seeing how you can help others with what you already have in your strength or connections bucket so that one day when you need something it shows up on your doorstep!

Always be generous will actually allow you to spend more time thinking about what you rock and what others rock and how you can all rock together!

If you’re always being generous others will be too! Including strangers! Plus, how long does it really take to do an e-troduction?

Less time then it takes to read this blog post!

How generous can you be this week?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Falling Happens

I fell yesterday. And, not a little slip and fall. Nope, a full-on flying of my 5’9″ body across an intersection and then a skid landing. I must say I’m so happy I do Pilates. This body did hold everything together well. I think my body was in full “swan” position. And, honestly, aside from some bruises the hardest part was getting back on the scooter that flung me off in the first place.

Think back to the last time you fell in public. Getting up was probably something you did as quickly as you could. Falling is embarrassing. But, getting back on your own two feet and taking the next step. That’s where things get a little weary. We wonder if we can trust the feet we stand on? Will we fall again? Did anyone notice? What will they think?

Falling physically is a fabulous example for life’s adventures. For the “risks” in the choices, we have to make daily. Do we do the thing we’ve done before knowing the result we will get or do we do the thing we haven’t done that may or may not work out?

And, here’s the thing. As someone who has fallen both physically and metaphorically speaking, I can’t tell you what decision to make. But, I can tell you that most of the time no one is paying that close attention. Most people even if they saw you fall just go on with their life. And, a year from now won’t even remember the fall they saw.

So, do the thing you haven’t tried! Give it a whirl. If you fall, try again. I don’t know many people who learned how to ride a bike without falling a few times.

This week, worry less about “what if you fall” and think more about what if you land!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Time to Become the Captain

So, I’ve often talked about the “journey” and also our own “path” in blogs, live’s and past “notes to inspire.” And, after this blog post, I may fall into that habit again. Although, I hope that in time I will switch. Because what I heard about a month ago has stuck with me so much that I cannot shake it. Has that ever happened to you? You hear something, and the truth of it goes straight into your soul! Well, that happened to me a few weeks back. I heard a woman on a podcast say that life isn’t a journey. There is no path! And instantly I was talking back at her like she had no idea what she was talking about. And then, her voice cut through my back talk. She said it’s like being on a sailboat.

Wait what?

She continued on and my ears were hanging on every word.

After she finished I was mind blown. I almost pulled my car over, except I was running late so I kept going but I did replay her answer a few times over.

She said some people want to take the train. They get off and on at different stops. And they are more or less fine with that. Or, not fine with that but they get back on thinking the next stop will have what they are looking for. But, a path, a personal-make-your-own-way kind of path still gives the notion that there is a “way” to where you want to go. But, there is no set, specific route for a sailboat.

There is open water, there is plenty of places to stop, and the path in between is between you, the winds, the weather, and your compass.

Some days you have to hold on tight, brave the winds, the rain, the lightning, the sharks and anything else you think the world can throw at you. And other days the waters are calm, the sky is clear and you can see, off in a distance where you are trying to go.

I love this! So much!

Because it means you don’t have to worry about being on the wrong path. You just have to enjoy the waters when they are calm, whether the storms as they come in and trust your compass…your gut!

This week, there will be calm waters, open oceans and your dreams will be in the distance where you can see them. There will also be some bad weather, some choppy unchartered waters and you may want to turn back. Don’t! The weather, the choppy waters will follow you. Point your compass, hold on tight and this storm will pass.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: You Don’t Have to Wait in Line

Living in LA I often drive by filming studios, clubs, bars and music venues and there are lines of people waiting to get in. I’ve seen news stories on people who camp out for movie releases, the latest iPhone or tennis shoe. And, I’m not hating on any of that. If waiting in line to get something you desire works for you then go for it.

But, one of the things I have been noticing as a common theme for many “successful” people is that not one of them waited in line for someone to let them in the front door. Some of the most famous entrepreneurs, celebrities and speakers got where they are because the line was too long so they went around to the back door or window. Steven Speilberg apparently got someone to notice his movie by getting a three-day set pass and dressing like an exec, said hi to the security guards like he knew them and made those three days last a week or so. His tenacity caught someone’s eye and that person helped him get his first movie in front of the gatekeepers and he became the youngest director.  He didn’t wait in any line.

And why should you?

Who said that you have to wait your turn?

Tell me, do you have an idea for something and desire to do it but you don’t think you’re “ready” yet? That’s your fear telling you to wait in line.

Has someone said you have a golden idea and you have to make it happen and you have a million reasons why you can’t yet? Another line.

Have you launched something and it didn’t have the impact you wanted so you moved on? Another line.

Sometimes the line moves fast and you can get in the front door. But, if there’s a back door, window or helping hand go for it!

I promise you, you’re not cutting in front of anyone by finding another way in. I know this because there is no pie of success, money or abundance. If you find success, make money or enjoy abundance it doesn’t affect my ability or anyone else’s ability to have those things too.

So, this week, skip the line and see what happens!

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: If You Want Your Dreams to Come True

If you want your dreams to come true you have to wake up! You need to open your eyes. It’s so easy to think about what we want, to lament over not having what we want and to wish for what we want. It’s so not easy to put one foot in front of the other and make your dreams a reality.

Or is it?

Have you ever had a dream and then days, weeks or months later lived that dream? It’s the craziest thing when it happens. We often call it deja vu. But, I do think our dreams can be our own future tellers. I know that borderline on woo but it’s true. Let me tell you a story.

At the very beginning of this year, I lost my engagement ring. I cried so hard. I was inconsolable. I really couldn’t stop looking for it. One day two weeks after I lost it I was dreaming. In my dream, I kept seeing piles of rings from the designer of my ring. But none of the rings were mine. My husband was in my dream and he kept saying I could pick any ring I wanted. But, I kept looking for my ring. I left this market to join my husband and friends to go get Kippy’s ice cream. And just as we were about to leave I saw my ring in a pile. My alarm went off! I closed my eyes. I wanted to go back to this dream so badly. I wanted to see where my ring was. But, I couldn’t get back to the dream. I couldn’t see more than what I already saw. I had to get up. I had to open my eyes.

My housekeeper walked in and I said to her “Elvia, we are going to find this ring. It’s in a pile. I just saw it in a dream.” Sure enough, an hour later she found it, in a pile of toothbrushes.

I know that my ring story is nothing like the dreams we have for our lives or our businesses but I hope it shows that in your dreams is your future and you can have it if you believe and open your eyes.

What are you dreaming about? What do you want? This week, write down your dreams, see what they are telling you!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Do You Know Where Your Keys Are?

If you see me in real life you know that I am happy! And, I don’t mean that in a braggy way. I mean that in a possible way. Meaning, I believe that everyone deserves to be happy and that everyone has the opportunity to be happy.

And, hey, I get it, it’s easy for me, someone who is happy to say we should all be happy. But, it’s true. You just have to believe that not only is being happy possible. But, that it is possible for YOU!

So, if you believe that being happy is possible for you then it just takes you finding the keys to your happiness!

Guess, what!? Finding the keys to your own happiness is really easy. Are you ready for it?

Your key’s to your own happiness is in YOUR pocket!

Yep, it’s true.

You want to know how I know?

Well, for years I searched for my happiness in my past jobs, past friendships or romantic relationships. I searched high and low and thought they were in purses I didn’t own yet or the trending outfits that I hadn’t bought yet. But you know what?

One day I found my keys to my own happiness and they were in my pocket the whole time.

So, go grab your keys and open the door to your happiness.

Are you ready?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: And, Now, this is How it is

Ever feel like you just keep getting hit with roadblocks, events, delays, wrong turns, things out of your control, insert anything here?

I’m a massive planner and love to design my schedule around my goals and things that fuel my soul. But, rarely does the schedule I design for the week go exactly as planned. Does that sound familiar to you?

On most days a little derailment is not noticeable. But, there are days when one thing has a domino effect and this can throw everything off, including the confidence in who we are and what we do.

But, what if we just got used to that?

What if we planned for the ideal and then as things changed outside of our control we just said: “and, now, this is how it is?”

Flight is late…and now this is how it is.

Hair appointment canceled…and now this is how it is.

Car sideswiped so now the car is in the shop…and now this is how it is.

Positive awesome opportunity presents itself…and now this is how it is.

What if this week instead of getting frustrated with thing out of your control you reframed it with and now this is how it is? How do you think that would feel?

Xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: What is For You Will Not Pass You

Have you ever had to decide between two options and you wanted both to happen but couldn’t say yes to both because you can’t be in two places at once? Or, what about finding the perfect home, studio, apartment or job and you have to wait and see if you got it? That waiting and seeing can cause more anxiety than the negative bad stuff that happens. We want those things to happen so badly we can taste it!!

I’ll never forget the first apartment that I lived in without a roommate. I think I stressed over finding out if I was approved for three days. I definitely couldn’t get anything else done, couldn’t focus on anything! Of course, I got it but at the cost of at least three days of life. Over the years I have become better and trusting the universe that I’ll get the thing I want if I am meant to get it.

But, sometimes it is just so hard! Last week I had to choose between two amazing opportunities! In choosing one I may lose out on the other. But, there is a chance that I can have both! However, life is way too crazy good busy for me to think about getting both for days while I wait to hear what happens. And, of course, I worry that if I am not thinking about wanting both that I’m not doing my part in manifesting. Have you ever been there? Where you fear that if you stop thinking about the thing you want that thing might feel like you don’t want it bad enough?

And, then I heard the BEST mantra EVER! What is FOR me will NOT PASS me!

What is for you will not pass you

What is for us will not pass us

Say it out loud, What is for me, will not pass me!

Say it again!

And again!

Now, whenever I think about the things I want that I have done all I can to allow them to happen I say “what is for me will not pass me.” It allows me to think the thought, want the thing and then let it go for the universe to do it’s magic.

This week, if you find yourself thinking and worrying tell yourself that what is for you will not pass you!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: There is Room for You

When I first became an instructor I figured it would be years before I taught workshops or people to be teachers. I thought retreats were not something I could do. Then not too long after I did begin teaching workshops. And not because I was given permission or teaching someone else’s. But, because there was room for me. And, that means there is room for you too!

Let me explain, there is zero room for you to copy someone else. So, if you are sitting there thinking that I’m wrong at that there is no room, that everyone has done this or that. You are probably right. But, you’re not trying to be them, to copycat anyone.

If you are totally honest, authentic and all things vulnerable there is room for you!

If you show up, fully as your self and unapologetically do your thing there is room for you!

If you do everything the way others have done it. Well, no wonder it’s cramped and feels icky and like you’re going up a stream without a paddle.

Here’s the deal my friends, when you try to do something someone else did because you think it worked for them so it will work for me. The outcome never really feels good.

But, when you do what you feel compelled to do. And you do it with your voice and your intentions and your sweat and tears of joy it feels sooo good!

If you don’t believe me, take a look at how many donut shops there are around you. Cupcake stores, jean brands, and now sparkling water flavors! There is room for YOU!

But, only the WHOLE YOU!

So, are you ready to take up space?

This week, what will you do to show up?

xx~LL 

 

Notes 2 Inspire: Choose Your Independence Day

I am writing this birthday of the United States. A day known as Independence day here where I live most of the time. This holiday is one full of memories for me. As a child, my family made it to baseball games to watch the fireworks. As an adult, I have found myself surrounded by my local “family.” But, this holiday is more than fireworks for me. On this holiday 11 years ago I moved to Los Angeles.

I’ll never forget that night, driving up the 405 North with the last of my belongings to my new home in LA. Fireworks going off everywhere my eyes could see. I knew that the decision to move to LA was integral in what was next in my life. I didn’t really know then what was to come. But, I was desiring change and for the universe to show me what was next and when my gut said move to LA I made that happen.

Moving to LA was just the start and my Pilates teaching journey birthed from it. I can honestly say if I hadn’t discovered Pilates when I did I not only wouldn’t be where I am today I wouldn’t be with who I am today. Pilates not only was part of my destiny it is the thread that gave me my friends, whose friends gave me the introduction to my now husband.

That move to LA on the celebration day of Independence was also my day of Independence. I was going rogue from the typical journey. The plan that most college graduates could go. Even against what my bosses at the time thought my journey should be.

Today, well, when you read this, yesterday, is another year of independence for me. A new one! I can’t tell you yet what exciting new part of my journey is happening but I can tell you that no matter what day you celebrate your independence the important thing is that you do! You, wherever you are in the gorgeous world can choose any day to be the day you decide to be you, do you and follow that voice inside!

Are you being called to do something, move somewhere, make a decision, change course, do something bold? I bet you are! And, I know it can be scary AF! But, I also know it’s exactly what you are supposed to do. Listen to your inner voice. 11 years later I am so glad I did.

This week, what will you do to hear that voice better?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Use Your Own Measuring Tape

So, here’s the thing, you cannot compare yourself, your behind the scenes efforts to others edited and perfected reels. Ok, maybe that’s a bit LA industry speak but allow me to explain. Social Media shows you everyone’s high light reels. People are showing you their best moments. If it was a movie you’re not seeing the uncut version. You are seeing the fully edited and touched up version.

And, it’s super important that you remember this! Because you see your fully un-cut life. You see all the good stuff, the bad stuff and you are most likely your worst critic!

But, the thing is that those perfect images you are seeing, the life that looks like they made it overnight and never struggle, those are the best of the best. And those perfect lives, well, each one of those people sits with lots of raw images, footage and stuff that they would never ever dare to share with you!

So, here’s the deal, cut yourself some slack, and maybe even a little more.

Be exactly where you are. You cannot measure yourself and your raw footage to someone else perfected measuring tape. We all have to start somewhere. For example, my Youtube videos are now easy-peasy and seem like I know what I am doing. But, if you go all the way back to video number 1…well, let’s just say I’m leaving it there mostly for those I tell, you have to start where you are. Trust me, I have thought of replacing it!

If you see someone rocking their thing be excited for them and where they are! They have their own measuring tape. And, you have yours!!! Your measuring tape starts exactly where you are and only measure where you are going and where you have come from.

This week, as you do your things, only measure with your own measuring tape.

xx~LL 

Notes to Inspire: Eagle Vision, Mouse Steps

I’ve said it, others have said it, multiple uber famous motivational speakers have said it. You need to have a vision, follow your passions and do what you love. But, what happens when you do all that and yet you still feel like you’re not getting to where you want to go? Have you ever launched something and just felt underwhelmed? Felt like you didn’t meet your own expectations?

Yeah, me either!

NOT!

Oh my goodness, have I ever had expectation hangover! I’m not gonna lie I have to constantly remind myself that daily baby steps forward are so much better than big leaps and bounds. Because every step is compounding and builds you closer to your goal. It really does!

How do I know? Well, besides trust, I’m literally in the midst of a launch that three years ago I scoffed at being possible. I’m traveling to teach at someone else’s big massive vision and two of my coaching clients are reaching the peak of their own mountain. And, none of these journeys happened overnight.

This idea of having a big vision but then taking baby steps was best said by someone on a podcast quoting someone else…both whose names I don’t recall. But, somewhere Oprah is involved.

You have to have Eagle Vision but take Mouse Steps!

This week, what mouse steps will you take?

xx~LL