Notes 2 Inspire: Some Meetings are Just For a Moment

About 6ish years ago I was leaving my relationship, home, totaled my car and the studio I taught my clients was closing. A friend of mine wanted me to meet someone. And, honestly, I wasn’t feeling super excited to make a new friend. It wasn’t like I didn’t want to but you know when you’re going through stuff, it’s hard to make space or start something new.

Anyways, I met the friend of a friend and within a few more hangs she introduced me to a guy who I am now married to. And, the girl, who is amazing (I’m eternally grateful) and I are more like social media friends. Our relationship was more for a season (as far as we know…the future has yet to unfold).

My point is, sometimes you meet people for one tiny moment. A conversation that will teach you something you need to know, an intro to your future partner, or someone who can help you with your dream.

And, it’s ok to let those meetings be for a moment. Don’t make them longer than they are designed. Allow them to be what they are to be and that may even mean letting go of some people who have been in your life longer. Have you been keeping friendships longer than maybe they were meant to be kept?

This week, take inventory of those chance encounters that were stepping stones to where you want to be. It’s a pretty fun experiment. What’s one of the most random encounters you have that made a difference in your life?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: What Are You NOT Doing?

Recently I launched a product and during the launch, I could tell that things were slowing down. We had exhausted all the avenues we planned. I was trying to figure out how I could keep things going. I was at a plateau…

And, here’s the thing, plateau’s happen. You’ll be working on your goal and it can be exciting at first and then it gets to the part where it’s work, it’s the unknown it’s hard. And, you’ll start to think you need to do MORE. And, what we all tend to do is do more of what we are already doing. But, making something happen is not always about doing more of the same it’s often about figuring out what you’re not doing.

What else can you do? What are you Not Doing?

This week, instead of doing more of what you’ve been doing try to do something you’re not doing.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Be So Imperfect it Drives People Crazy

You know how much I think perfectionism is just procrastination? If you don’t then let me introduce myself. Hello, I am LL and I used to be a perfectionist. And, then I realized I was just being a procrastinator. And, really, who wants to be a procrastinator?

Now, I know there is plenty of chatter about how some procrastination is a good thing. It allows ideas to percolate. And, I would agree with that. But, I am not talking about the percolating kind of procrastination. I am talking about the delay, make excuses, dream of it but never pull the trigger, kind of procrastination. The deep belief that it needs to be perfect before you can share it with anyone.

Let me just tell you that you will always be tweaking things.

ALWAYS

There are more guarantees in life than death and taxes.

Updating your website will be a constant task.

So, launch it! You can make changes as you get feedback and learn how your users are using it.

Share that blog. You can always write and update or edit it later.

Give that speech!

Paint that picture.

Post that video.

You don’t get good by thinking about it.

You get better and better by doing.

The author of “the happiness project” said in an interview she’d rather have that get together then plan the perfect dinner party that never happens.

So, press “go”, “publish” or “play!”

Because the more you share who you are and care less about being so perfect the more you’ll drive people crazy for you!

Being you is more attractive than being curated.

What will do imperfectly today?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Boldly Brag Like You Never Have

On the first in-person day of my this new mastermind I joined to help me grow my businesses, even more, they asked us to take 60 seconds to brag big! I instantly felt a pang of fear. What would I say? I mean, what I have I done with bragging about? Not going to lie I felt a bit speechless and then I realized how dumb that all sounded. I mean, have you ever actually listened to some of the thoughts in your head? We all have stuff to brag about. So, why don’t we?

For the next hour I listened to 40 people share their big brags. I was number 30 so to say I sat there ready to share the whole time would be a lie. I had to keep reminding myself of all the crazy amazing big and small things I had accomplished. I took out my journal and began writing them down. I kept writing until it was my turn.

And for 60 seconds I share all the things I thought were worth bragging about.

I felt pretty awesome. I mean, I also felt like in comparison my brags were as big as others but for me they were big time brags.

Afterwards when we were all mingling people were coming up to me to talk about how cool some of my brags were! WHAT?!?!

So, it got me thinking, why don’t we take a moment to brag? Brag without qualifying. Brag without making our achievements from “luck.” Or, making my win small so others won’t feel bad.

This week, brag boldy! Brag BIG. If you don’t want to do it in person out loud as I did then comment below with your brags. Brag like no one is watching.

xx~LL 

 

Notes 2 Inspire: Toxic Love

Ever wonder why someone is in your life?

You know that annoying person at work who you swear is talking bad about your behind your back?

Or maybe it’s a family member who doesn’t get you, likes to tear you down!

Toxic people are in your life for a reason.

I know, so annoying!

But, here’s the thing, these toxic people are here to help you figure out what you need to work on.

And, even better, these toxic people are going to help you spot future toxic people. Yep, it’s like practice. You learn how to overcome the toxic people in your lives now in the future you’ll spot them sooner before they get in and try to block you from your truth!

So, this week, find a way to love the toxic people in your life so you can get past them and onto where you are supposed to headed!

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Go Ahead, Disappoint People

I made a lot of decisions growing up because I wanted to make sure my family was proud of me. Sound familiar? People from my hometown understand graduating with high honors and getting promoted, working up the corporate ladder.

One day with a year left of college I went home to see my sister graduate. I ran into a girl I knew from growing up and when she saw me she told me all about her life. She was so excited about it. When I told her what I had been working on “graduating next year, running my own stores and living by the beach” she said, “that it?”

That’s IT!

Inside I wanted to scream at her. Did she even know how hard I was working? How many hours I was working each week? How I was carrying 17 units and running a store while managing a staff of 15?

No, she didn’t. And, even if she did it wouldn’t have impressed her.

That’s when I realized no matter what you do you will disappoint people!

So you may as well get started!

This week, how many things can you do to disappoint anyone but you?

Try it out!

It’s kind of refreshing.

Make decisions based on how you will feel about yourself at the end of the day and not who you’ll disappoint. And, by the way, you’re going to disappoint people who truly see and care about you. It’s just not possible.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: What Did You Do?

How often do you end your day or week thinking “I didn’t do_____.”

I noticed that I would end my day before dinner lamenting over all the things I didn’t do. And, the effort it took me to acknowledge what I did do was more energy than I had at that hour.

My lamenting and un-ending to-do list began to annoy me. And one night I caught myself. I had been running through all the things I didn’t do and then I found myself saying “But I did do ___.”

That but broke the spell.

I fell lighter, more excited and even proud.

After that, I kept going. But I did do this and I did do that and I also did those things I started yesterday!

This week, when you hear yourself saying all the things you didn’t do finish the sentence and add But I did do____.

You got this!

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Team Up with the Fear

Have you ever noticed how much harder it is to ignore what scares you?

Years ago I was so afraid to make a decision. So, I avoided it. It got worse. Not only did the problem not go away, it got bigger. It became harder to make the decision I should have made months before.

Then, it got scarier, insert more fear!

When I finally just gave into the fear the problem was wrapped around so many parts it took longer to deal with.

I got through the mess and my lesson from that is whole fiasco was that I should have done the scary thing sooner. It would have been easier!!

Here’s the thing about Fear, you run from it. It gets more power. You lean into it, call it out and the fear will dissipate.

This week, what scary thing can you team up with?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: New Level, New Devil

Do you ever find yourself saying “once I get to ___ it’ll be better”? And, as you get closer and closer to your next level- website launch, new show, bigger space, and goal achieved it almost feels harder. And, then when you finally get a chance to break through. There is more work.

Sure, it’s exciting, I mean, you made it!

And, I want you to CELEBRATE

You did it. You are at the next level in your life, goal or business.

But, I wish someone had told me this theory years ago. Because I would have enjoyed being exactly where I was more.

See, I know you’re working hard. You want to more. You’re trying to move up. To get to the next level. And, if it’s because you’re ready, it’s time and it’s your next step, LEVEL UP MY FRIEND!

But, if you’re leveling up to escape where you are, to get out of the hardships of being where you are then please remember. New Level New Devil.

So, my friend, you got to be ready to level up.

This week, can you see where you are ready to level up and where you are forcing it because you just don’t like how hard your now is.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: It’s Your Reaction That Matters

I talk often about controlling your controlables. And, here’s the thing, stuff happens to us all the time. We wake up and begin our day and we are hit with what can feel like an onslaught of stuff! Our day feels derailed and out of our control. How we react makes all the difference!

Wait, don’t roll your eyes at me yet. Or, say “I know LL I know. But this time it was huge and I just can’t seem to stop crying/whining/screaming/lamenting.”

Here’s the thing, all the time you are spending reacting to what happens to you is time you can’t get back. It’s time spent giving to the people who are trying to distract you.

This week my goal was to get 2 months ahead in all my content. As I write this I am only a month ahead and I have one day left. I had massive distraction happen, some mistakes by others that held me up and the heat took out the electricity and took away 3 hours of my workday. I wanted to freak out sooo much! I wanted to throw a tantrum ( I know, I’m not 3 but I really just wanted to scream and shout at no one). But, the reality is the more time I spent focusing on how things weren’t going my way the planned the less time I had to do what I wanted to do.

So, this week, when stuff aka sh*t hits the fan it’s ok to totally take note, feel your feelings, but, instead of letting those feelings take on a life and path of their own see if you can change the derailments plan. Can you react better?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: What If You Didn’t Care About the Hoopla

Do you ever start to do something and then freeze, worry, stress or totally freak out because you’re so worried about the outcome you can’t think about the next step? When’s the last time you had an idea but the stress that it wouldn’t work out, or the feelings of what people might think stopped you from seeing it through? I have moments where I go to do something and my “what would people think” worries start speaking. And, they don’t like to whisper.

But, then one day I just didn’t care. I was too tired to care about the hoopla. Then outcome. I just had to do the thing! And, you know what? There were zero fireworks. No one threw me a party and awarded me for my efforts. The idea came, I made it happen and it did its thing. And you want to know something?

It was freaking glorious!

Yep, the freedom to not give an F about what happened after I completed the idea was so invigorating I did it again. And again. And, now, there is nothing stopping me from just trying out the ideas that come my way. Some of them fall flat and I get awesome feedback from that. And others, well, they exceed my expectations. Like my AGENCY Mastermind. I didn’t put any hoopla expectations on this idea. I just had to birth it. And, it blows my mind every day.

This week, what if you didn’t care about the hoopla? What would you do?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Let Others Impress You

Ever been to a party? ha, lame question. Ever been around people you don’t know very well? The answer is probably yes. Can you recall one of the recent party’s you went to? Chances are you knew someone there but you probably also didn’t know other guests. And, there’s a weird thing that happens when we are around others we don’t know. We get nervous, worried or even quiet…we make ourselves small. Because we often think we have to impress these people we don’t know.

But, what if you let others impress you?

What if you could be your fully awesome self, and instead of having to feel like you have to sound cool or impress these strangers you let them impress you?

What questions would you ask? What could you learn? How would the conversation change? How more yourself would you feel?

There is this amazing thing that happens when you ask people to “tell me more.” They get an opportunity to share what they are excited and passionate about. And then they become a little more vulnerable and trust ensues. You learn new things you may never have. You also don’t leave feeling like you didn’t share your truth.

And, people after they share there thing will be excited to hear about your thing. And you’ll feel safe to share what you’re most excited about.

So, go ahead and let others impress you this week!

In fact, I’ll start, I want to hear what you’re most excited about right now. Let me know in the comments below or comment below.

xx~LL