Notes 2 Inspire: Where Do You Get Your Advice

This week’s “Notes 2 Inspire” was literally inspired by you! I go live on Instagram regularly and in the conversation one day I spoke about how to be authentically yourself. And, in doing that what came up was one of my favorite topics “whose opinion of you matters.” And one listener brought up a quote about advice and where we get our advice from. So, I had to make it a topic for my note of inspo.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: What are You Comparing Yourself To?

Hey hey, this week’s “notes 2 inspire” is all about the trap of comparison! Comparison is the robber of happiness. It keeps you from doing what you feel you were meant to do. It makes you feel like you are not good enough. What are you comparing yourself to?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: How is this For You?

I know it’s easy to think “why me?” Or, to even think that the worst things are happening to you. And, while I don’t want to discount how painful some experiences are I do think it’s important to take a moment to think how an experience is for you. How is it helping you? What is it sets you up for?

 

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Getting Comfortable with Uncertainty

When things don’t go as planned it can send you on a spiral that makes you feel like the whole world is against you! But, what would happen if you got comfortable with not being able to control things? What if you could bounce back faster? How would that affect your life, your business and more?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Your Mess is Your Message

I have heard “your mess is your message” for years! I have no idea who I heard it from first. But, a few years ago I heard it on a podcast, then I heard it through Lori Harder and Jen Gottlieb and again on a podcast. And while I nodded along as if they were preaching to the choir I really didn’t digest that phrase. It resonated and left. Kind of like a great brownie. A moment on the lips and then you drink some milk and the deliciousness is gone.

But, recently it stuck. I heard “your mess is your message” when in a coaching session with my mastermind and I blurted out my mess and immediately realized how it is SOOO my message!

So, my challenge to you this week is to brain dump your mess. How can you share what you are trying to clean up the most to help others?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Some Meetings are Just For a Moment

About 6ish years ago I was leaving my relationship, home, totaled my car and the studio I taught my clients was closing. A friend of mine wanted me to meet someone. And, honestly, I wasn’t feeling super excited to make a new friend. It wasn’t like I didn’t want to but you know when you’re going through stuff, it’s hard to make space or start something new.

Anyways, I met the friend of a friend and within a few more hangs she introduced me to a guy who I am now married to. And, the girl, who is amazing (I’m eternally grateful) and I are more like social media friends. Our relationship was more for a season (as far as we know…the future has yet to unfold).

My point is, sometimes you meet people for one tiny moment. A conversation that will teach you something you need to know, an intro to your future partner, or someone who can help you with your dream.

And, it’s ok to let those meetings be for a moment. Don’t make them longer than they are designed. Allow them to be what they are to be and that may even mean letting go of some people who have been in your life longer. Have you been keeping friendships longer than maybe they were meant to be kept?

This week, take inventory of those chance encounters that were stepping stones to where you want to be. It’s a pretty fun experiment. What’s one of the most random encounters you have that made a difference in your life?

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: What Are You NOT Doing?

Recently I launched a product and during the launch, I could tell that things were slowing down. We had exhausted all the avenues we planned. I was trying to figure out how I could keep things going. I was at a plateau…

And, here’s the thing, plateau’s happen. You’ll be working on your goal and it can be exciting at first and then it gets to the part where it’s work, it’s the unknown it’s hard. And, you’ll start to think you need to do MORE. And, what we all tend to do is do more of what we are already doing. But, making something happen is not always about doing more of the same it’s often about figuring out what you’re not doing.

What else can you do? What are you Not Doing?

This week, instead of doing more of what you’ve been doing try to do something you’re not doing.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Be So Imperfect it Drives People Crazy

You know how much I think perfectionism is just procrastination? If you don’t then let me introduce myself. Hello, I am LL and I used to be a perfectionist. And, then I realized I was just being a procrastinator. And, really, who wants to be a procrastinator?

Now, I know there is plenty of chatter about how some procrastination is a good thing. It allows ideas to percolate. And, I would agree with that. But, I am not talking about the percolating kind of procrastination. I am talking about the delay, make excuses, dream of it but never pull the trigger, kind of procrastination. The deep belief that it needs to be perfect before you can share it with anyone.

Let me just tell you that you will always be tweaking things.

ALWAYS

There are more guarantees in life than death and taxes.

Updating your website will be a constant task.

So, launch it! You can make changes as you get feedback and learn how your users are using it.

Share that blog. You can always write and update or edit it later.

Give that speech!

Paint that picture.

Post that video.

You don’t get good by thinking about it.

You get better and better by doing.

The author of “the happiness project” said in an interview she’d rather have that get together then plan the perfect dinner party that never happens.

So, press “go”, “publish” or “play!”

Because the more you share who you are and care less about being so perfect the more you’ll drive people crazy for you!

Being you is more attractive than being curated.

What will do imperfectly today?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Boldly Brag Like You Never Have

On the first in-person day of my this new mastermind I joined to help me grow my businesses, even more, they asked us to take 60 seconds to brag big! I instantly felt a pang of fear. What would I say? I mean, what I have I done with bragging about? Not going to lie I felt a bit speechless and then I realized how dumb that all sounded. I mean, have you ever actually listened to some of the thoughts in your head? We all have stuff to brag about. So, why don’t we?

For the next hour I listened to 40 people share their big brags. I was number 30 so to say I sat there ready to share the whole time would be a lie. I had to keep reminding myself of all the crazy amazing big and small things I had accomplished. I took out my journal and began writing them down. I kept writing until it was my turn.

And for 60 seconds I share all the things I thought were worth bragging about.

I felt pretty awesome. I mean, I also felt like in comparison my brags were as big as others but for me they were big time brags.

Afterwards when we were all mingling people were coming up to me to talk about how cool some of my brags were! WHAT?!?!

So, it got me thinking, why don’t we take a moment to brag? Brag without qualifying. Brag without making our achievements from “luck.” Or, making my win small so others won’t feel bad.

This week, brag boldy! Brag BIG. If you don’t want to do it in person out loud as I did then comment below with your brags. Brag like no one is watching.

xx~LL 

 

Notes 2 Inspire: Toxic Love

Ever wonder why someone is in your life?

You know that annoying person at work who you swear is talking bad about your behind your back?

Or maybe it’s a family member who doesn’t get you, likes to tear you down!

Toxic people are in your life for a reason.

I know, so annoying!

But, here’s the thing, these toxic people are here to help you figure out what you need to work on.

And, even better, these toxic people are going to help you spot future toxic people. Yep, it’s like practice. You learn how to overcome the toxic people in your lives now in the future you’ll spot them sooner before they get in and try to block you from your truth!

So, this week, find a way to love the toxic people in your life so you can get past them and onto where you are supposed to headed!

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Go Ahead, Disappoint People

I made a lot of decisions growing up because I wanted to make sure my family was proud of me. Sound familiar? People from my hometown understand graduating with high honors and getting promoted, working up the corporate ladder.

One day with a year left of college I went home to see my sister graduate. I ran into a girl I knew from growing up and when she saw me she told me all about her life. She was so excited about it. When I told her what I had been working on “graduating next year, running my own stores and living by the beach” she said, “that it?”

That’s IT!

Inside I wanted to scream at her. Did she even know how hard I was working? How many hours I was working each week? How I was carrying 17 units and running a store while managing a staff of 15?

No, she didn’t. And, even if she did it wouldn’t have impressed her.

That’s when I realized no matter what you do you will disappoint people!

So you may as well get started!

This week, how many things can you do to disappoint anyone but you?

Try it out!

It’s kind of refreshing.

Make decisions based on how you will feel about yourself at the end of the day and not who you’ll disappoint. And, by the way, you’re going to disappoint people who truly see and care about you. It’s just not possible.

xx~LL