Notes 2 Inspire: People Want Familiar

People want familiar! Yes, they do! I know you think they want famous. But, think about it for a minute.

Whose the best hairdresser in town? YOURS

Where’s the best place to shop? The place you shop at!

Who should work on my car? Your mechanics shop!

When is the last time someone asked you a question about something and you referred them to a famous person, business, a restaurant you’ve never been or met? Go ahead, think about it, I’ll wait.

Can’t think of a time? Me either! Why? Because we want our people to know and use our people. We love community and seek connection.

Recently I did a chat about Pilates, what it is and how people in my community could take with me.
Why? Because if people in my area don’t know who I am how will they know I’m the Pilates person for them? People want what and who they know.

So whatever it is you do that you want people to do with you they have to know you. So, go ahead and share your gift, share who you are, shout it out to peeps so they can share with their friends.  You don’t need to be famous, instafamous a Youtuber. You don’t need some beautiful genealogy or great PR person.

You just need to be you, share who you are with people and allow them to see what it would be like to work with you!

You IG game doesn’t have to be en pointe. It could be pics of you doing what you love! In fact, it should!

Then as people in your community get to know who you are, what you do and why you rock they’ll flock to you!

So, as you feel the pressures make your magic happen remember people truly want familiar over famous.
They want you!

This week share more of who you are with people!

Xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: It’s Ok to Upgrade!

Years ago I wrote a blog post when for another platform about “upgrading yourself” rather than resolving to be someone else. I am a big believer in goals, intentions, and visions. But, I don’t like the whole “new year, new you” stuff. I think it’s the wrong message.

There is nothing wrong with who you are.

You are the only You and I know that’s woo-woo but it’s true.

One of my clients and top podcaster Cather Heller loves to remind her listeners that “you won the lottery.” The chances that You became You are one in how many million. So, why trade yourself in just because it’s a new year.

I like to think of new goals, intentions or visions as doing an update or an upgrade. My iPhone X is still an iPhone. It can do more things because technology has changed. But, at its core, it’s still an iPhone.

This week, as the remaining promos and discounts claiming to be the key to the new, improved you flood your minds-eye remember you are amazing. It’s ok to Upgrade but there is no need to become something or someone else. The world needs You!

Notes 2 Inspire: It’s Ok to be Human

Ever get frustrated with yourself?

Yeah, me either!

Ha just kidding.

But, seriously, I have found that when I get frustrated its due to some sort of expectation I placed on myself. For example, I wanted to get 5 blogs written in one afternoon. I didn’t get any written and I was starting to feel like I was a bit of a “failure” on my to-do list.

Even as I write that I cringe at how awful that sounds and you are probably already getting ready to tell me that “it’s all going to be ok, don’t be so hard on yourself.”

And, if the shoe were on the other foot I would say the same things. But, the point is we should be able to tell ourselves these kind words.

I know that you too have been hard on yourself for not meeting your own expectations.

There are quotes and meme’s and even a past “note 2 inspire” on talking to yourself as if you were your own best friend!

But, it’s not just so that you say nice words to yourself. The thing is my friends is that we are human. We (luckily) are not perfect. We will make mistakes, miss deadlines, change our minds.

Yes, I would love for you to tell yourself you’re awesome all the time. But, it can be even simpler than that. You can just recognize you’re human!

You are a human and that’s amazing!

You will meet and miss deadlines. You will rock and you will not rock as much all the time.

And, instead of getting upset at yourself or trying to pump yourself up try to just remember that you are a human being. You’re not a robot or a superhuman.

This week, if you don’t do something you expected to do instead of wasting time beating yourself up pinch yourself to feel you are human and make adjustments to the plan!

You got this!

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Be Flawesome!

Do you try hard to make sure to cover up your flaws? Maybe you edit or delete a post when you realize you made a typo? Or, do you find yourself turning read when you feel you made a mistake? What if you didn’t? What if instead of trying to only show the perfect you showed your flaws? What if you could be more flawesome?

This month I put the wrong year down in my newsletters not once, not twice but three times! The first time I said 2019 when I meant 2018. Then I said 2018 when I meant 2019. And, finally, I said 2013 when I meant 2019!

The first time I was so mad at myself and I wanted desperately to reach into the thousands of inbox’s my newsletter went to and fix it. The second time I was so frustrated…How could I do that twice? The third time I laughed out loud so hard I almost fell out of my chair.

All three times the mistake went mostly unnoticed. A few people wrote back to double check the correct date and that created conversations with those who receive my emails. Conversations I don’t usually get to have because sending newsletters can often feel like a one-way conversation.

And, all those mistakes, those “flaws” didn’t hurt anything. In fact, they made people see that in fact, I am human!

So, this week, show off your awesome flaws! I’ll show mine!

Here’s to a more flawesome year!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Building an Image vs Making an Impact

It seems like everyone is becoming some sort of ‘influencer.’ As I scroll through Instagram and see the more curated photos and perfectly chosen inspirational quotes. And, while I love a good boost of inspo and clearly I hope you do too this is a “note 2 inspire after all. I think it’s easy to get swept up by the branding and appearances of it all instead of the impact you desire to make.

I don’t think any ‘influencer’ got into it thinking about the perfect image they could create I believe that each one of us does what we do or what we want to do because we hope to help someone else. But, it’s easy to get more obsessed with the branding, with the image and the appearance and forget about what we wanted to do in the first place-make an impact!

And, the funny thing about this switching your focus to image, branding and appearances is that is more stressful and creates more anxiety. We begin to worry about what people will think. Instead of how people will feel.

Nothing is perfect. In fact, curation and perfection are boring.

When you place your focus back on making that impact, affecting those who you care about, sharing your experience and feelings to help others feel better, stronger and more connected not only is life more fulfilling but you don’t care about the things that don’t matter.

This week, try to keep your focus on the impact you want to have and worry less about the image.

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Create More than You Consume

Do you feel empowered after you scroll the interwebs? Or, do you feel overwhelmed, a bit bummed, or maybe even “behind?”

When we scroll through Instagram, Fb etc it is easy to compare our “work in progress” with someone else’s filtered and curated end product. I am not saying that what they post isn’t authentic or worthy. I too love a good filter and don’t post when my website crashes or when I totally miss a deadline. But, that’s actually my point. We all tend to post the best version of whatever is happening. But, it’s easy to forget that those pics and posts are the best versions of that person’s day, it may or may not be reality and it causes us to feel like we are behind in the race. That we aren’t “doing it.”

I try to create more than I consume. Not because I want to bombard people with beautiful pictures. That’s not it at all! But, what I mean is, that I try not to consume more of others ‘stuff’ than I can create of my own.

And, by creating I don’t mean post more on social!

I create blogs to help others, I create webinars, I journal, workout or film videos to help others. The more I create to help others with their questions or needs the better I feel. I don’t want you to create for the sake of being busy. I hope you can find ways to create that shares your gifts and helps others.

How do you feel after you scrolled through IG for 30 min? Do you feel like you can take on the world? If you do that’s awesome. But, if you feel whelmed or worse then make a deal with yourself this week to create more than you consume!

I can’t wait to see what you create this week.

xx~LL

Notes 2 Inspire: Copy Less, Guess More!

Back when I was a student I hated failing. And, by failing I mean getting anything less than an ‘A’ on an assignment or test. I will never forget the moment I thought about cheating on a test. I remember seeing the answers on my neighbor’s test so clearly and so easily. It was like they were wanting me to see them! But, as my eyes started to zero in and my mind was trying to justify copying my neighbor’s answers someone sneezed. The teacher looked up and I lost my nerve to copy those answers.

I’d like to think I passed some life test but the truth is had that person not sneezed I wonder if I would have copied them. A week later I found out the answers I was about to copy were wrong. I got them correct. Sure I guessed but I still went with my gut on it. That’s when I realized that copying someone else was not going to be the answers I needed in school and this lesson translated into life.

We so often compare ourselves to others. We think the way they share their good news, the font they use, the filters the colors or the hashtags are the keys to whatever kingdom we seek to have. But, the truth is every time to copy someone else you settling to be what they are doing. You cannot be you, grow your life or your business if you are copying someone else. And, worse, you don’t even know if what they are doing is right for them let alone the best step for you!

So, look, I get it, it’s tempting. I mean, the answers are right there. Waiting for us to just copy and do what they are doing. But, if you copy the “competition” or the people who have gone ahead of you, forged a path you will only get as far as they did. And, I know you were meant for more!

This week, where can you break from tradition? What can you do that feels a little scary? What steps can you take that you don’t know the answer to?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Get Out of the Harbor!

I hate those things that “pop-up” out of nowhere and block me from where I want to go, what I want to do or feel like they are trying to take me down. Do you know what I am talking about? You’re going on your journey, making your goals and magic happen and BOOM! Out of nowhere, your website goes down, someone writes something cruel on your post or steals your credit card and now you have to deal with that. When all you want to be doing is getting your message out there and building your business. Rachel Hollis said on a recent podcast “Ships are safe at harbor but that’s not what they’re made for.” And neither are YOU!

So, you are finally getting the guts up to get out of “the harbor” and then something happens that makes you wish you had just stayed at home. Not put yourself out there. Not put money or time into a project because the outcome wasn’t what you anticipated.

Last week I arrived home from my three week trip of Vegas, Melbourne, and Cambodia. After months and years of blogging, writing, teaching and even going live I was nervous and worried. What if people didn’t like the workshops? Maybe I should have just stayed at home? But, the opposite was true. They loved all of it! And, I wouldn’t know that if I hadn’t gotten out of the “harbor.” It was an incredible adventure where I met many of you readers in real life! The trip was incredibly amazing and allowed me to share my workshops and Pilates teaching with so many people.

My point in sharing this is, you were meant to get out and share your gifts. And, getting outside the comforts of the neighborhood, your office, your studio, your computer is necessary! I cannot guarantee it will be smooth sailing. In fact, it’s almost better if it’s not. There is a lot of growth in things not going as planned.  I do wish for your absolute health and safety, but putting yourself out there, sharing your gifts is scary but not sharing your gifts is scarier.

Have you been holding yourself back? Worried about what will happen? Worried about what others will say? Worried about what others will do? You may be safe where you sit but was that what you were made for?

This week consider pushing your limits a little bit. If you make a mistake re-read last week’s Note 2 inspire. You cannot control the outcomes or actions of others but you can captain your own ship! And, isn’t that exciting? What will you see when you’re out of the harbor?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Fall in Love with Your Mistakes

One thing I absolutely struggle with is how I talk to myself after I made mistakes. I would get upset, wonder how I could do something so lame. Think and rethink about how I should have done it. And, before you know it that little mistake had taken over my day. I know I am not alone in this. And, while I am getting better at the self talk. It’s not just because I need to or should. It’s because mistakes are worth having! And, we should truly fall in love with our mistakes.

You’re probably wondering why I believe this. But, have you ever taken a wrong turn and found an amazing cafe or shop on a street you would never have found yourself on? Or, have you ever gotten lost on vacation only to discover a cute little town that no tourists go to?

Mistakes are feedback. They give us a new perspective on a thought, they give us insight into how we should or shouldn’t do something. And unless you are a surgeon most mistakes are not so life-altering that you cannot bounce back. In fact, most mistakes put you on the right path for you!

Some of the biggest blessings in my life are due to the mistakes I made. Things I didn’t do, or forgot to do or didn’t do “right.” I cannot imagine what my life would look like or where I would be if I hadn’t made a mistake.

So, don’t just be nice to yourself after you make a mistake. Fall in love with that mistake. Welcome it in! See where it leads you!

How many mistakes can you fall in love with this week?

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Make It Real as Quickly as You Can!

Do you keep your desires, dreams, ideas or goals a secret?

I often hear people say they are working on things or they have some ideas but they don’t want to share it with anyone just yet.

Does that sound like you?

Keeping your wants and dreams a secret doesn’t help you make them a reality. If you share them with others you will not only get amazing support and probably help to make your want a reality. But, when you tell people what you are working on it makes it REAL!

When your idea or thought is real you truly are more likely to do it!

I have this thing about telling someone an idea I have quickly. It lets me hear it out loud, which lets me feel what it sounds like. It also makes me have to work on it.

When I told people I was opening a studio it forced me to order my equipment! I know if I had waited to tell people about my studio opening even two weeks later it would have delayed my order at least another 2 weeks.

There is a study out there that says only 98% of people act on any of their ideas. That means only 2% of people make their ideas happen. Statistically, no one is going to steal your idea. So, go ahead and shout it from the rooftops. Make your idea REAL!

The sooner you do that, the sooner you can see it happen.

xx~LL

PS. Just because you make it real doesn’t mean you are married to it. If you discover it’s not what you want you can totally hit the period on that idea and move on to another one.

 

Notes 2 Inspire: But, Is it Really Bad?

Life isn’t always magical stars, rainbows, and glitter. I wish it was but sometimes it can simply just suck! And, it’s easy to focus on the bad stuff and not see any of the good stuff. And, while I can sit here and talk about how you need to count your blessings. I think it could be more important and even more useful to talk about the bad stuff a little bit.

How do you know its bad?

Sometimes we don’t get what we want and so we think that it is bad. But, how do you know?

It feels bad in the moment because it wasn’t the result you wanted. However, if we could see into the future what we would probably find out is that what we first thought was bad was probably a gift for our future self in disguise.

I recently did a podcast interview where I talk about being homeless, carless and studioless just a little over five years ago. And now, today, I have my own studio, a fabulous husband, two homes and so much more than I could have imagined. But, at the moment it felt awful! Terrible! However, I decided it was meant to be. That it was setting me up for the future. I let the “bad” happen. And, it set up the foundation I needed for the good.

So, this week, when the “bad” stuff happens, just remember it’s setting you up for the good stuff you deserve. It’s paving a way!

xx~LL 

Notes 2 Inspire: Say What You Want Out Loud

Do you keep your dreams a secret? Tell me if this sounds familiar… You have an idea for your life or your business but you don’t want to share it. You don’t want anyone to copy what you are doing. You keep it to yourself until you’re “ready.” How often does that work out for you? When was the last time something you wanted you kept secret and then it happened? If you have been successful this way that’s amazing. But, as I look back at all the things I have that I wanted the ones that have come to fruition came because of the help of others. Because I told somebody something I wanted.

For example, people ask me how I got my retreat space in Cambodia often. I tell them, I wanted it and I told everyone in Siem Reap what I wanted. I told them what I was planning on doing. And, even though when I was there and there were no possible retreat spaces to buy I just kept telling people I knew there what I was looking for. One day, a house that was not listed became available. Someone told someone and that person told someone who I had told what I wanted. And boom! I got it!

I only have my house there because I did not keep my plans a secret.

My retreat space was not from manifestation alone. It was from the help of others!

Here’s the thing. I could have been worried someone else would hear my idea and copy me. But, life is too short to worry about that. And the truth is 98% of people will never act on their dreams. Isn’t that insane!?

And, an even better thing, people want to help you! They want you to be happy! They want to be part of the story that is YOU.

So, this week, don’t keep to yourself what it is that you want! Tell someone what you’re working on. Who knows who they know who could have the keys to your dreams.

xx~LL